If you have been a person who lives in the world for a long enough time, you will know that first impressions are important. This is true in all things, of course, but it’s especially true when it comes to dating. Like, who among us hasn’t lived in fear of accidentally coming off as a jerk when you really just meant to be assertive, sending a too-personal text too soon, or simply doing the ol’ foot-in-mouth thing on a first date, all of which (you fear) have the power to turn your crush against you? This is why I was…intrigued by a Reddit thread I found recently on things women often write in their online dating profiles that are “instant turn-offs” for guys.
Now, to be clear, you don’t have to change anything about your own behavior, appearance, or dating app persona simply because of what some guys on Reddit have to say about it. (If anything, you can use these things as a master list of things to do to bother guys, if that would make you happy.) But, if you are interested in dating guys (which is an unfortunate task, to be sure, but someone has to do it!) it can be useful to know what makes a good impression and what…does not. So, check out these what these guys have to say about what might prevent them from asking out a girl on a dating app:
Saying You're A "Princess"Apparently, guys don't like it if you call yourself a "princess." SultanOfMars said that his immediate left-swipe is a bio that says, "'im a princess' or 'i want to be treated as a princess.'" That's a little rich coming from a guy whose username is "SultanOfMars," but, uh, noted! Image source: Getty
Being, Like, So SarcasticAre you...fluent in sarcasm? If so, maybe show that instead of telling everyone about it. A_tame_zergling said that their main dealbreaker in dating app bios is, "Fluent in sarcasm so if you can't deal with it don't bother." To be fair, this is definitely not something that is gender-specific--if anyone uses it, it's generally a sign that they don't actually know what sarcasm is, so they just conflate it with "rudeness" and call it their sense of humor. Either way, just try not to use the S-word in your dating profile! (And stay away from anyone who uses it, too.) Image source: Getty
Being High MaintenanceBallsop said seeing "'high maintenance'" in a dating profile is a big no-no for them. They continued "Why would you be proud of that and what f**king moron would seek that in a partner?" A fair point! Image source: Getty
Saying You Hate EveryoneFeel like being a little edgy? Maybe, uh, don't. Bakerocky said "'I probably hate you'" is their main bio turnoff. So, maybe you do hate them. But I guess you can save that for the first message! Image source: Getty
Having A...Complicated Relationship With DramaStockholm-Syndrome said "'I don't like drama'" earns a left swipe. As another user pointed out, this basically serves as a translation for "drama fuels me." So, uh, maybe don't put that in your bio! Image source: Getty
Thinking Quirkiness Makes You UniqueKlutchAtStraws said that seeing "'All my friends say I'm crazy lol!'" in a dating app bio is a big turnoff for them. Why? Most people feel like they have a wacky relationship with their friends, so it's not exactly unique. As ominousgraycat said, "Wow, back the f*ck up! You mean you and your friends occasionally tell jokes or play mild pranks? Someone call the loony bin!" Image source: Getty
Refusing To Message FirstTechniclourtype) said the one thing they can't stand seeing is "Message me, I wont talk first" You don't have to message someone first, of course (well, unless you're using Bumble, in which case you literally do have to message first), but having that in a bio probably seems a bit...entitled. Image source: Getty
Were you surprised by any of these things? Which ones? Let us know in the comments!