Is it weird that I don’t experience any pleasure from having my nipples stimulated? I always hear people talking about how you should play with your nipples during sex and masturbation, but I’ve tried that and it does nothing for me. What’s wrong with me?
Nipple play is a common sexual act that a lot of people – both men and women – enjoy. Some women even claim that they can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone. So, is it weird if you feel… well.. nothing in that area? Even when you’re trying to feel something?
The short answer is no. The body has a lot of different erogenous zones, but that doesn’t mean everything is the same for everyone. Some women might feel a lot of pleasure from nipple stimulation, others might feel a little discomfort, and others (like yourself) might feel nothing at all. Trust me: nothing weird is going on. Your nipples just aren’t into sexual stuff!
If you Google this question about not having feeling in your nipples, you’ll probably notice that there are a lot of articles about how to make your nipples more sensitive or how to make them feel something during sex stuff. There’s no way to make your nipples sensitive if they aren’t, and there’s nothing you can do that’s going to turn them into sexual powerhouses. They are the way they are!
And, hey, it’s really not a big deal. There are a lot of different erogenous zones on the body aside from the stuff happening down there, so you don’t need to feel like you’re missing out if nipple play doesn’t work for you. Experiment with sex stuff, be open-minded, and communicate with your partner. You’ll find what feels good for you eventually, and when that happens, you’ll forget about all this nipple stuff.
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