If you’re anything like me, you would never, ever be the person to initiate a conversation with a crush. I mean, they have to be the one to do it, right? I’ve always felt wary about being the one to reach out because I’ve always felt like it’s pushy and desperate. In high school, I would refuse to text a boy first, since I wanted them to talk to me first. And being that stubborn can be very frustrating. On the one hand, you might want to say “F it, I’ll text them!” but then you regret it as the text is sending. I’ve been there. I think we’ve ALL been there. So, if you really can’t make the first move, you need to figure out how to get your crush to want to talk to you. And that’s a whole other game.
First, though, let me just say this: it definitely isn’t pushy or desperate to text your crush first, or to be the one to say hi to them when you see them out. I realize that now, but it took me years to learn that. So, if you feel like you want to be the one making a move, go for it!
That said, you don’t have to do that if you feel crazy nervous about it. You can try to let off subtle hints to encourage them to text you first. You can’t force someone to talk to you, but you can help them notice you. And, if they notice you, they are more likely to talk to you and realize how effing amazing you are! Trust me, this will work. Once you get your crush to talk to you, they will want to get to know you more, and before you know it, you will be on a date with your crush. I can’t make promises, but I can give you some tips on how to get your crush to talk to you.
Find Out Their InterestsDoes your crush love Game Of Thrones? Do you know nothing about it?! Same. So, don't try to pretend you like it too just because they do. Instead, try to find another common interest. Maybe you guys like the same band - if so, wear that band's t-shirt the next time you know you're going to be around them and it might spark a conversation. I have done this before, no shame. Or, if you have a mutual friend, *casually* set up a hangout when you know they’ll be around too. Image Source: Getty
Sit Next To Them In ClassIf you have the ability to switch up your seating in class, you should go for it and sit next to your crush. They will probably, at some point, turn to you and ask you for some homework help. Then you can use that to start a convo! You've got this. Image Source: Getty
Add Them On SnapchatThis is a sneaky way to get their attention - just add them on social media. This way, they will (hopefully) follow you back, and you can show off your ~amazing~ selfies. Image Source: Getty
Get More SocialTry to be more social in general to increase your chances of being around your crush. For instance, if you know they'll be at a big party and you know the people throwing it, go with your friends so that you guys will be in the same place at the same time..Or if you know they'll be at the school's pep rally, go and hang out also.. Putting yourself in their orbit is a good way for them to notice you, and also for you to be able to see more of what they’re like outside of school. Image Source: Getty
Make Eye ContactEye contact is the most important things about flirting (or trying to flirt). If you see your crush in the hallway, make eye contact! If you keep making eye contact when you see them, eventually it will get their attention and they will want to talk to you. Don't, like, stand there and stare at them until they think you’re being creepy, just make sure to glance around and catch their eye once in awhile. It might encourage them to talk to you! Image Source: Getty
SmileAnother important thing to do is to smile. Even if you can't say "hi," making eye contact and smiling is the nicest thing someone can do without actually saying anything. People are definitely more likely to reach out to someone who comes off as genuinely nice. Image Source: Getty
Like Their Posts On Social MediaThis is the easiest way to get your crush's attention, IMO. If they have social media accounts, like their posts! This way, you're getting on their radar without having to actually go out on a limb and do anything. Be sure not to like a post from 45 weeks ago, but if it was put up in the last few days, you should be good. Image Source: Getty
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