At this point in your life, chances are good that you’ve heard the word “asexuality” at least a few times. It might have been in biology class when you learned about asexual reproduction, or on Tumblr, or in, like, a Morrissey interview. But, despite how many times you’ve heard it, it’s possible that you’re still a little confused on what asexuality actually means–or, to be exact, what being asexual is actually like.
To be fair, there is no one way to describe what any sexual orientation is “actually” like, because sexuality differs from person to person. (Basically, no oner ia going to have the exact same experience as another person just because they both identify as the same sexual orientation.) But asexuality–defined by What Is Asexuality? as “someone who does not experience sexual attraction”–is one of the most underrepresented sexual orientations out there. People seem to think that the absence of sexual attraction negates the validity of the orientation as a whole, which makes it hard for some people to feel truly comfortable talking about their asexuality.So, if you’re a little confused about what the asexual experience is actually like, check out these Whisper confessions explaining everything you need to know:
1. Some people don’t feel comfortable talking about it, especially if they’re dating someone else:
2. You can date someone if you’re asexual, by the way–it just might make it a little challenging in some cases:
3. Lots of asexual people get married, too:
4. Most people, um, don’t really “get” asexuality:
5. Like, not at all (it’s not a disease, in case you were wondering):
6. It’s a weird dichotomy!
7. Having a sexual experience doesn’t cancel out the fact that you’re asexual you identify that way:
8. Sometimes, coming out can make things confusing in a relationship:
9. Other times, it can make things seem a lot clearer:
10. In any case, if you’re asexual, you can expect to get some pretty dumb questions from time to time:
11. Like, really dumb questions:
13. In conclusion…..most people suck:
14. But being asexual doesn’t have to be! Basically, you can always make it work for yourself:
What do you think of these confessions? Were you surprised by any of them? Let us know in the comments!