Let’s talk about your sex life real quick. Are you enjoying sex these days? Or is it just meh? Are you super excited to have sex, and then once the time comes it’s sort of… anticlimactic? If so, maybe you blame it on your partner or just assume that they are bad at sex, and hope that the next time is better. We’ve all been there, right? I hate to be the bearer of bad news here, but your crappy sex life could actually be your fault. Yikes! It’s okay. I’m going to help.
No one wants to admit that they’re bad at sex, because it feels embarrassing, like you’re failing at something important. But honestly, struggling with sex is more common than you think. You don’t just do it and automatically become great at it! It can take some time and practice. Plus, you might not necessarily be bad – you might just have to tweak some little things you’re doing to make the experience better. It’s important to be super in touch with yourself so that you can know what will make sex better or more exciting for you. If you do any of the following things, you might be sabotaging your sex life. If you DON’T do the following things, and still have bad sex, then maybe you should tell your partner to check out this article. Good luck!
Not Speaking UpYou might be too shy or nervous to ask what you want, but that is just going to make sex a lot less fun and a lot more boring. If your partner is doing something that doesn't really feel good, tell them! If they do something you like, tell them that! Don't be afraid to speak up. Sex should be fun, not a chore. Image Source: One Tree Hill
Being Too StubbornDon't get me wrong, you should never, ever do something you don't want to do in bed. But if you automatically rule out trying a new sex position or getting it on somewhere besides your normal sex routine, how will you know what you like? It's okay to experiment a little bit! Image Source: Sex and the City
Not MasturbatingOkay, you don't have to masturbate, of course, but it can help you get to know your body a lot more, which can make your sex life SO much better. If you don't know what feels good, how can you expect someone else to help you feel good? It's okay to explore your body! If you don't you might not realize what you're missing. Image Source: The To Do List
Ditching ProtectionGirls, listen: you need to protect yourself from STDs, STIs, and pregnancy. If a guy tells you that condoms "don't feel good" for him, then don't have sex with him. I know you might think that talking about safe sex might ~ruin the moment~ with your bae, but trust me, it's better to be safe than sorry. Image Source: New Girl
Not Taking Care Of Your BodyEven when you're not in bed, taking care of yourself is important. If you're not taking care of your body, then your sex life can suffer. I know it sounds silly, but it's really important to be in touch with yourself. If you have anxiety issues, that can show in your sex life and even make sex painful for you. It's important to stay on top of these things. Image Source: Don't Trust The B In Apartment 23
Romanticizing SexLook, sex is great. But it's not the absolute greatest thing in the world. If you build it up in your head too much, you might end up being disappointed, which would suck. Sex should be fun and exciting, not a life-changing event. If you put too much pressure on yourself to have a life-altering sex life, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Image Source: Titanic
Not Asking What They WantSex is a two way street. You want to be comfortable, but you also want to make sure your partner is also having fun, right? Right! Be sure to ask your partner what they like, too. This way, you can BOTH have a fun time, instead of just one of you. Image Source: The OC
Which of these things have you done? Tell us in the comments!