8 Subtle Signs Your Crush Isn’t Into You

I know that it’s back-to-school season and you have a lot on your mind, but I know that I, personally, was never good at focusing on anything besides my crush. I know you’re in school to learn, not yearn after someone cute person in your math class. Still, it’s normal to lust after someone when you’re just getting back into the swing of things. This rings especially true if you’re going back to school excited to see your crush from last year who you haven’t seen all summer. You know who I’m talking about. It’s the person you’ve liked for the last few months or even years, the person you haven’t done anything with yet, the person you’re hoping will see you in September and realize they’ve been missing out all along. It’s exciting to see them again in the beginning of the school year!

While I hate to burst that bubble, I have to be honest: it’s possible that all of that time they haven’t been hitting on you means they aren’t actually into you. Crushes are called that for a reason – sometimes they really hurt. Of course it’s possible that they do like you back, but you should be aware of the warning signs that your feelings aren’t being reciprocated. It’s better to know now so that you can find someone new to lust over! Here are some subtle signs that your crush isn’t into you. And if it seems like it fits? Don’t worry – you’ll find someone new.


You Always Initiate

If you're always the one texting your crush or starting a convo, they might not be super into you. Sure, they could just be shy, but if they do like you, they will at least try to reach out and make contact. If there is barely anything coming from their end, it's time to end the crush. Sorry!

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They Make Plans But Never Follow Through

Do you and your crush always say you're going to hang, but they never commit to a real time or day? They might be avoiding you because they just aren't into you. Sorry! They probably don't want to hurt your feelings and deny you, but they string you along by making tentative plans, which is almost worse than getting denied. It messes with your head and it just annoying, so if you and your crush have made plans many times but nothing has ever happened, they might not want it to happen.

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Their Responses Are Short

"Lol." "Cool." "Nice." These are all common texts that scream "I don't really want to be talking to you right now." They don't warrant a response, and if your crush is saying these things to you, they are either terrible at holding a conversation, or just don't want to be talking to you in the first place. It's time to end the conversation there and leave it at that.

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They Always Cancel On You

Okay, let's say you and your crush happen to make plans. If they are always cancelling, or saying "something came up!" but won't reschedule, they could be trying to avoid you. It sucks and is totally childish, but people do it as a way to string someone along. They are not worth it!

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They Straight Up Ignore You

If your crush ignores you, it's probably not them being "cute" it's them avoiding you. I don't want to freak you out, but if you are always saying "hey" or commenting on their Instagram posts and get no response, they probably aren't that into you.

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They Don't Ask About You

If you and your crush start chatting and they are always talking about themselves and never asking about you, it shows that they don't really care about what's going on in your life. If they had feelings for you, they would at least ask you a little bit about your life. If they don't they probably don't ~like like~ you.

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They Only Want To Hook Up

If you and your crush are in the hook up stage, but they only hit you up late at night or when they are horny, it could mean they are only interested in sex, not in you. If you are only interested in sex too, then that's fine! If not, then you need to cut ties before you get hurt.

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They Always Talk About Someone Else

If your crush is always asking about your BFF, they might be into them, not you. This has happened to me a lot and it truly sucks. A guy used me to get close to my friend. It's the worst! But if you notice it happening to you, distance yourself from them. It will just hurt if you get more involved with them!

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