I recently got my first period. I can’t. I just can’t. Blood, bodily fluids, etc. make me so uncomfortable and I’m not as strong as so many other girls. I can’t do it. I want to permanently stop my period, but I don’t know how to. How can I make this more comfortable?
Oh girl, I feel you. I’m very squeamish when it comes to body stuff, and when I first got my period, I was horrified. Use my fingers to put a tampon up there when there was blood everywhere? No thanks. Deal with period blood getting everywhere if things got too heavy? Not for me! Cramps, bloating, stomach pains, bowel issues? Please, please make it stop. I was miserable. And, unfortunately, I knew nothing I could do would ever make it go away forever.
Luckily, though, you do have some options. First of all, make sure you’re using all the products you can to prevent leaking and to stay more comfortable down there. Tampons are great because you can’t feel them – but if you’re freaked out about putting them in, you have other options. I spoke to Laura Goodman, the Senior Scientist for Tampax and Always, to see what she had to recommend. Laura said, “If you don’t feel ready for a tampon just yet, try Always Infinity pads; with Flex Foam technology that allows it to hold 10X its weight without feeling heavy. Always Infinity is also pretty cool because it pulls the fluid down into the bottom layer of the pad so you don’t notice it as much. And, it’s super thin and comfortable. I’ve had lots of girls and women say they forget they are even wearing a pad when they use Always Infinity.” See? Not so bad!
While you’ll never be able to stop your period forever, there are some things that can make your flow lighter and more manageable. Birth control pills will help keep your cycle regular, and can often make your flow a little bit lighter too. The Pill is also known to help with a lot of nasty PMS symptoms, like cramping, bloating, and headaches. And, with some brands, you’ll get your period for a shorter amount of time, or you’ll only get it a few times a year rather than every month.
Another option is to get an IUD. This is a small device that a doctor puts into your body through a procedure. It can be inside of you for years, and it helps minimize PMS symptoms. A lot of women who have IUDs say they either never get their period at all, or they only get it a little bit once in a while. You might actually be able to make it disappear after all!
Of course, birth control pills and IUDs are things you need to think about since they do affect the rest of your body. It can take a while to find the right pill, and IUDs can often be a little painful to insert. Both have their own complications and you should speak to a gynecologist before deciding on one – don’t just get it to get rid of your period!
Other things you can do? Try to make the most of that week. I know it sucks, but it’s a short period of time in the grand scheme of things. Wear the right pads or tampons, practice self-care during that time, wear comfortable clothes, relax and lounge, and try not to think about it. I promise that, after a while, you’ll get used to it, and it will just become a part of life. It just takes some time, but you’ll get there.
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