Most people have pretty loaded feelings when it comes to the concept of virginity. This, of course, is fairly understandable. Our culture is one that is pretty much always preoccupied with sex in every form, so whether you’re having it, not having it, or somewhere in the middle, your own feelings on sex are probably somewhat convoluted.
If you are a girl who hasn’t had sex yet (or even if you have had sex), I feel like it’s easy to assume that every guy you ever encounter is having sex, and lots of it. This is probably due to the fact that straight guys seem to be encouraged to brag about any sexual exploit they might have while girls get shamed for doing the same thing. But, if you think about it, it doesn’t make any sense. (Who are these guys even having sex with, anyway?) In fact, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males aged 20 to 24. So, why might these guys be waiting? A bunch of them went to the Whisper App to talk about it. If you’re curious, check out these confessions from guys on why they’ve decided not to have sex yet:
1. Most of the reasons guys have for not having sex are pretty wholesome:
And, uh, boring. In a good way!
2. Like waiting until marriage:
See? Wholesome and a little boring.
3. And waiting for the ~right person~
Which many of us can probably relate to.
4. And refusing to succumb to peer pressure:
This person needs to get better friends, probably?
5. Some guys however, aren’t so confident about their status:
One might (correctly) assume that the usage of the term “man card” is impeding this guy with his efforts, but who am I to judge?
6. Some people haven’t told anyone about it, either:
7. Hmm! Must be nice!
Who can’t relate?
8. Some people have RUDE friends!
(It’s not wrong to wait for a special someone, btw.)
9. The takeaway here, if there is one, is that you can’t go by your original assumption of ANYONE!
Even hot models–traditionally thought of one of the biggest sub-groups of sex-havers–haven’t had sex!
And, uh, fraternity presidents.
And college football players.
12. It can be complicated!
People contain multitudes.
13. Guys get scared too, after all:
Guys are often expected to be the more knowledgeable half when hooking up, so this is understandable.
14. Fair enough!
Basically? Virginity matters as much or as little as you want it to matter.
Were you surprised by any of these confessions? Which ones? Let us know in the comments!