Sex is…a lot. It’s super fun and feels good, but it’s also a lot of work and effort for both people involved. And, of course, with anything that is a lot of work, it can be hard to get it right all of the time. Sometimes, you might be doing something you THINK a guy likes when, in reality, he really isn’t into it. It just makes the whole thing embarrassing and awkward and can even ruin a perfectly awesome sexual encounter. It’s okay, most of us have been there, which is why the internet is full of advice on things that guys really want you to know about sex. Specifically, things they hate.
As Reddit user Clutzyninja said, “sex is like pizza, even when it’s bad, it’s usually pretty good.” So, you can rest assured that bad sex will hardly ever be, like, that bad. Still, if you’re having sex, you might be having fun, but how do you know if you’re partner is having fun too? There are actually a few things that guys aren’t into when it comes to having sex. Sometimes, they tell you about them. Other times, they just ignore it and wait for YOU to talk to them about it. Either way, communication is the best thing when it comes to sex, and you should really be talking it out with your partner every time. But, that doesn’t always happen, which is why Reddit is here to tell us all of the things that guys secretly hate about sex. Check it out!
They Are Under PressureListen, girls are under a lot of pressure when it comes to sex, but guys are too, and it can be hard to remember that. Tatusenameistaken said, "About 99% of the pressure to perform is on guys, and girls on average expect the guys to figure out telepathically what gets them off. That's on top of being expected to want it whenever the girl does. Please communicate, don't expect the guy to know exactly what to do." This is good advice! Remember to talk it out with your partner, even if you think they know what they're doing. Image Source: Gilmore Girls
When Girls Try Porn MovesYou might THINK that what is shown in porn is what all guys want, but that's not always the case. As 0xD153A53 says, "Not all of us like that sloppy porn-star blowjob." Some guys might have preferences, but the only way to find out is to ask. Don't just assume they want something! It's better to ask than to assume. Image Source: Jawbreaker
When Girls Squeeze Too TightHand jobs are very hard (no pun intended) and it can take a little while to get used to them. That being said, you definitely don't want to hurt your partner. As Wheres_the_whiskey said, Don't grip so tight, and you usually grab way too much shaft and not enough that's actually sensitive." Be sure to talk it out and ask what they are feeling. You really don't want to hurt your bae! Image Source: Degrassi
When They Do All Of The WorkShinerawg said, "I love sex, but goodness I feel like I do 90% of the work. I literally do cardio so I don't get tired so fast for sexy times." This makes sense. Don't let your guy do EVERYTHING, since that's just not very fair. Sex really is a workout, and you should try to do as much as you can to make your partner feel good too! Image Source: Bridesmaids
When They Have To InitiateOkay, this gets tricky. On the one hand, you should never feel pressured to make the first move with anyone, even if they are your BF/GF. It's okay to be nervous or shy, as long as you communicate that with them. On the other hand, they might have a hard time initiating sex all the time, since it could make it seem like you don't REALLY want to do it with them. Diquehead said, "I hate having to be the one that initiates sex all of the time." No, you don't have to be the one to initiate every time, but once in awhile, your guy would appreciate it. Image Source: Saturday Night Live
When Girls Use Their TeethAnotherenglishlad said, "teeth during a blowjob." This one makes sense. I mean, you understand that this would hurt, right? Be careful! It might be helpful to put your curl your lips under your teeth, or ask your partner what feels best for them! Image Source: Skins
A Lack Of EnthusiasmIf you're not enjoying having sex with someone, you shouldn't pretend you are. It's just not fair to your partner and can really make them feel bad or like they aren't good enough. LesbainTongue said, "A lack of enthusiasm." They are right, it's not fair to pretend you're having fun when you're not. Sex is SUPPOSED to be fun for both of you! Image Source: The OC
Which of these things have you done? Tell us in the comments!