6 Benefits Of Dating Your Friends That Nobody Talks About

Having a crush on some unattainable upperclassman or the new kid at your school is pretty common, but I’m pretty sure that there isn’t a single person on the planet who hasn’t had a crush on someone they’re already friends with. Whether it’s your BFF or someone who’s just a member of your larger friend group, having a crush on your friend is practically a rite of passage. But what are you supposed to, you know, do about it?

Sure, there are friends who start dating and end up having great relationships…until they break up, potentially leaving their once amazing friendship in absolute shambles. And then there are people who end up in an endless Friends With Benefits hellhole of neglecting addressing actual feelings for each other in exchange for not-so-no-strings-attached hookups. Can somebody say messy as hell? But believe it or not, despite the warnings against getting involved with a friend, there’s plenty of proof that dating a friend might be the way to go if you can swing it. Check out these six benefits of dating a friend that nobody ever talks about. Stop low key flirting, get out there, and ask that pal of yours out already.

You're More Attracted To Each Other

It's science. A study by researchers at the University of Texas shows that the longer people know each other, the more attractive they are--physically and personality wise--which is only good news for those of you who have a crush on a friend. There's a chance that friend of yours is already attracted to you one way or another.

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It's VERY Possible To Retain A Friendship Even After A Breakup

The biggest argument against dating friends is that it ruins a beautiful friendship that'll never repair itself if you break up. Honestly, that's a really rash assumption to make. Every relationship is different, and I'd actually argue that unless your break up was particularly nasty, your chances of remaining friends is a lot higher with someone you're already close friends with than some random person you met on a dating app. Interestingly enough, studies show that women who have relationships with other women usually retain those friendships after their relationships end, so if you're a girl who likes other girls...you might be in luck.

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You Already Know Each Other's Relationship History

Honestly, this shouldn't be as big of a deal as it is in any relationship...but some people feel touchy about it. If you're one of those people, then you would probably find comfort in dating someone with a dating history that you probably already know about, and vice versa. You might already know that their ex was ridiculously clingy, and maybe they know that yours was a total a-hole who never gave you the attention you deserve. Knowing this can make you two approach your relationship with more understanding and empathy about your past experiences.

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You're Not So Interested In Impressing Each Other

I'm in a long-term relationship with someone I wasn't friends with and didn't even know, and it has worked out great. But I have no affection for the borderline audition process that I felt like I was going through early on! I felt like I always had to say something interesting or be impressive in some kind of way; it was like constantly trying to charm the pants off someone (perhaps literally). But you're less likely to go through all that nonsense when you start dating someone you're good friends with. You don't need to show off or make a case for yourself as a person worth spending time with, because you've already proven that...and the proof is your friendship.


You Already Know What There Is To Like About Them

Dating can be fun, but the prying and prodding and figuring out someone's likes and dislikes can be a bit exhausting, especially when you realize you don't have as much in common with someone as you expected. With friend, y'all already know what each others hobbies and interests are, so there's no guessing game about whether they'll like this band or want to see that movie.


You Already Know Most Of Their Negative Attributes Too

On the other hand, it's also a nasty surprise to suddenly stumble upon the negative personality attributes of someone you're dating or hooking up with that you didn't really know before. It's like a slap in the face. But with people you're already friends with, you frankly know what their negative personality traits are from the jump...and you've managed to like them regardless. Sure, there are probably some not-so-great personality traits to discover if you start dating, but the most glaring ones won't come as a nasty surprise.

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What’s your take on dating friends? Yay or nay? Tell us in the comments!

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