Over the past few years, the term “Friends With Benefits” AKA FWBs has become pretty popular. I’m sure you’ve heard of it, but I’ll give you a rundown. A “friend with benefit” is a “friend” who you “benefit” from in a ~sexual~ way. Since it’s like a relationship, just without exclusivity and commitment, FWBs have always been a little controversial. Like, can you REALLY have a purely sexual relationship with someone without getting attached? Won’t someone end up getting hurt? It’s so complicated! Are these types of relationships really worth it? It depends.
Based on my own personal experience, at least, it can get super tricky. Almost always, one person will end up catching feelings, and then it becomes a huge mess. Recently, DrEd did a study about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to FWBs. The results were pretty interesting! They surveyed 1,000 Americans and Europeans about their relationship habits. The first thing we learned was that 57 percent of people have admitted to being in a FWB relationship at some point in their life. In fact, 58 percent of Americans found that FWBs were a lot more convenient than committed relationships. So, what are the benefits?
According to this study, the “benefits” include a variety of things. For 48 percent of men, they like a FWB relationship so they can experiment more in the bedroom. 56 percent of men and 52 percent of women like the arrangement because they can discuss sexual fantasies. 25 percent of men and 39 percent of women even admit to going out on dates with their friend with benefits. It seems like the line between “friend” and “boyfriend/girlfriend” is pretty tricky. 47 percent of men and 41 percent of women admit to talking to their FWB about their family and personal life. That seems pretty relationship-y to me, right? So, how often do people get attached? According to the study, men are more likely to get emotionally attached than women, though women are more likely to want to date their FWB:
As you can see, 52 percent of men get emotionally attached to their FWB, compared to only 44 percent of women. On the other hand, 51 percent of women would want to date their FWB, but less than half the men surveyed would consider dating their FWB. So, how do these relationships end? 28 percent of FWB relationships end because one of the friends moved away. 20 percent of FWBs end when one person involved wants to date someone new, and 10 percent of FWBs end when one of them wanted a relationship with the other.
So…they seem to end for a variety of reasons, which makes us wonder if these types of relationships are actually worth it. Since women are less likely to get emotionally attached, it might be worth a shot if you want to ~experiment~ with someone. Just be careful not to catch feelings for someone who you don’t intend on dating! It can get tricky and someone might end up getting hurt. It’s important to communicate and always be open with your feelings if you want to try this. Good luck!
Have you ever been in a friends with benefits relationship? Tell us in the comments!