We’ve all been there. You’re talking to a guy (not, like, talking IRL, but talking talking, which really just means texting) and, all of a sudden, they just…stop. Talking to you, that is. The change from “talking” to “not talking” is so sudden and abrupt that your first instinct is to assume that they have died, perhaps, or suddenly been placed in the Witness Protection Program, and due to either being deceased or given a new identity, they simply cannot text you. But, no–they’re on Instagram, they’re in Snapchat, and they’re on Facebook, having the nerve to exist despite the fact that they aren’t texting you back.
You’ve just been ghosted.
To be frank, this–the act of being ghosted–sucks a whole big one. Even if you weren’t necessarily that invested in talking to someone, there’s still a very distinct sting that accompanies not being spoken to by this person. And, when it happens to you, it’s very likely that you might find yourself wondering what, exactly, happened. Recently, I came across a Reddit thread of guys explaining why they’ve stopped texting girls before, and, while the answers might not explain your particular situation, they’re certainly…interesting. Check out what these guys had to say on why they ghosted girls:
You Forgot To ProofreadSpelling and grammar might not mean all that much to you, but to some people you're texting, it might make all the difference. RamsesThePigeon said, 'Every day' is two words when you mean to convey 'each day.' 'Everyday' is an adjective that means 'mundane.' Maybe he stopped texting you because your responses were full of typos." Which is, um, a little rude. But, hey, might be worth proofreading your texts before hitting "send." Image source: iStock
It Feels One-SidedWhile it might seem easy, you can't rely on guys to handle the entire conversation. RemoteProvider said that they stop talking to girls "Usually because they don't do anything to keep the conversation going. I shouldn't be the only one asking questions, etc." So, if you're invested in a guy, try and show it. You don't have to text them every single hour of every day, just text them the way you would like someone you're interested in to text you. Image source: iStock
It's The Final StrawIt's also possible that you just haven't picked up on the message they're trying to send you. You know how sometimes when you're talking to a guy who you might not necessarily be into, you try to subtly hint that you don't really want to talk to them? A guy might be doing the same to you. Family_guy_ostrich said, "I've ghosted on women that were clearly more interested in me than I was in them. I tried hinting to be polite, message didn't get through. Not proud of it, it's an immature way to handle it." Image source: iStock
They're Talking To Someone ElseUnfortunately, the thing that many people consider to be a worst case scenario--that the person you're talking to found someone else--could be true. DiscoFalston said, "Was interested but found someone I was more interested in." This objectively sucks! Still, if someone ghosts you, that's a pretty good sign that you don't want to be with them anyway. Image source: iStock
They Don't Appreciate Your Texting OrnamentsApparently, some guys aren't that into emojis. Wakkajabba said, "Turns out I wasn't talking to her, I was just talking to her bank of emojis." Now, I am going to editorialize a bit here and say that if a guy doesn't appreciate your emoji usage, he's the one who doesn't deserve you--not the other way around. So, use this information however you see fit. Image source: iStock
It's Too Much WorkEver started to feel like your texting was taking up more energy than necessary? A bunch of guys feel the same way. RandomUsername416 said, "It began to feel like a chore. She didn't seem interested in me like she used to. I began to feel like texting her wasn't worth my time. I decided I would respond to any text she sent but I would completely stop initiating conversation/questions (in part just so I could see what would happen) because it felt like I was doing it all. Haven't had a response since, and the above statements became more true than I wished." Image source: iStock
They're ScaredBelieve it or not, some guys just get scared. Hey_Victor said, " In my case it was because I was scared. I could tell she was into me and I was into her but I was just too scared to make the next move. Definitely don't feel good about it." Image source: iStock
What do you think about these explanations? Do you buy ’em, or nah? Let us know in the comments!