We’ve all been there: you’re talking to a dude, he seems pretty cool and nice, you’re starting to feel butterflies, and then all of a sudden he says something… bad. He says he “means well,” but it comes off as rude and offensive. You might feel too weird to call him out, or you do and then everything is awkward. It can really ruin a good conversation or date and bum you out. Honestly, some dudes just don’t realize when they are being offensive or mean. That doesn’t make it okay, though. It’s just further proof that boys don’t think before they speak, and rarely ever learn from their mistakes.
If there is one thing we can learn from this, it’s that most girls have similar experiences. It’s really hard not to take offense, but it’s easier when you realize that you are not alone. According to a recent Reddit thread, there are a ton of “compliments” that men direct at woman, without realizing that they are pretty messed up. If you think you can relate, take a look at these common compliments guys give that are actually super offensive. Then, next time this happens to you, send them a link to this article.
"You Look So Young"That's kind of creepy, TBH. Lacedaisy said, "'You look so young! I thought you were about thirteen!' Yes, I know that I'll probably be grateful for it when I'm older, which almost invariably follows, but right now, as a very petite and baby-faced twenty-year-old, I don't want to be told I look like a child." Being told you look young is weird, especially if you're already young. Why is looking like a teen a good thing? It's super uncomfortable. Image Source: iStock
"Your English Is Good"Okay, this was a common comment on the thread. Destria said, "'Your English is so good!' Um I'm a native speaker, I was born in England and have lived here all 24 years of my life. I would hope so!" Men seem to assume that certain girls might have accents just because of the way they look.That's not always the case! Image Source: iStock
"Your Hair Looks Better A Certain Way"Beezbuzzingfast332 said, "I always get this compliment when I straighten my hair, which happens maybe twice a year and takes HOURS At first I'm excited for a different look but then I realize I hate it and I love my naturally curly hair. But when other people compliment it over my natural hair it makes me feel terrible about my regular appearance." As someone who had SUPER curly hair growing up, I was always told my hair looked better straight, which caused me to straighten it everyday in high school and ruin it. You can tell someone their hair looks nice, just don't tell them it looks better! Image Source: iStock
"You're Cute Because Of Your Size"I can't really relate to this one, but it was also mentioned a lot in this thread. Ayuxx said: "'You're so cute/adorable!' because I'm under five feet tall." Just because someone is smaller doesn't mean they are "cute." They are cute anyway! Don't relate their attractiveness to their size! Image Source: iStock
"You Have Big Boobs"I can ASSURE YOU that us women know exactly how big our own boobs are. You don't need to comment on them. Clover1975 said, "That I have huge tits. I'm serious. Guys actually think it's a compliment. Do they not understand that I know this? I've literally lived with them my entire life? The fact that you're pointing this out is not really a compliment. Just means that you notice something that's quite obvious and trying to make yourself feel better about staring." Image Source: iStock
"You Look Better Without Glasses"Pomagranite16 said, "'You're way prettier without glasses' I look bammin' whether they're on or off, thank you very much." Uh, this is rude. Glasses are important and if you need them, you don't want to be told you look better without them. Guys, take notes. Image Source: iStock
"You're Pretty For Your Major"Fanceypantscheese said, "'You're the prettiest girl in this engineering class/major/meeting!'Gee, thanks. I totally appreciate being singled out for my looks and gender rather than my skills while I'm in a male dominated field." UGH! Girls can so math and science too! Singling them out because of that is so rude and degrading. Image Source: iStock
"You Look Exotic"Thumper5 said, " I get irked when people compliment me on looking 'exotic' and immediately follow it up by asking me where I'm from and keep pressing when I tell them I'm from Texas. Because I am." Listen, someone's ethnicity isn't really anyone's business but their own. If they want to tell you about their family and culture, then great! But don't press them to talk about it. It's weird. Image Source: iStock
Have you ever gotten a rude compliment from a man? Tell us in the comments!