There is a lot of talk of emotional abuse these days, since it’s actually a lot more common than you would think. A common form of emotional abuse is manipulation. The worst part about being manipulated is that you rarely ever realize that it’s happening to you, normally until it’s too late. It sucks to be manipulated – someone gets in your head and makes you think that you are messing up all the time, even when THEY are the one who is messing up or being unfair. It happens all the time in relationships, which just makes it seem like normal behaviour, even though it isn’t.
The first step to understanding manipulation is to check out the warning signs. Unfortunately, it’s hard to do that. I recently came across an Ask Reddit thread titled “what is a red flag that someone is manipulating you?” and the Reddit community gave some pretty good answers. Honestly, it’s scary to realize that you might have been manipulated in the past, or even right now. Manipulation can happen in every type of relationship: a romantic one, a friendship, even a relationship with your family. If you feel like you might be getting manipulated, be sure to check out these seven warning signs.
You Dream Of Days Without ThemIf you are dreading hanging with your partner or friend, it could be a sign that they are manipulating you when you are together. As equal-in-the-end said, "If envisioning a life without their presence brings you relief." This doesn't mean that if you don't like someone they are automatically manipulating you, but if they make you feel bad when you DO see them, it could be a sign that they are doing it on purpose, so have more power. Image Source: iStock
You Don't Feel EqualThis is a huge one. Manipulating someone is having power and control over them. Maybe your bae always asks you for favors, but never does anything for you. If you don't feel like you are in control, you might be getting manipulated. Wargerliam said, "If you think about how even the relationship is. If you feel that your bending over backwards for someone, and that they don't reciprocate." Image Source: iStock
You Are Never EnoughNo matter what you do, you don't feel like it's enough. If you feel this way, it's bad. As omgblehhhhhh said, "If you feel like you can't do anything right, you are being manipulated. I used to think it was me, but when I actually started opening up about my problems my friends were pretty shocked." Image Source: iStock
They Make Little jokesRedf6 said, "When little jabs designed to chip away at your self confidence are followed up with a comment that it was 'Just a joke' or 'Don't take things so serious.' This is designed to make you always question your decision making and worry about the other person's approval." This is the WORST. They might think these jokes are little and not harmful, but if they continue to make them even after you told them it bothers you, it's manipulative. Image Source: iStock
They Don't Admit They Are WrongFlashpointJ24 said,"Never admitting they're wrong, especially in the form of non-apologies. 'I'm sorry you were offended,' or 'I'm sorry you feel that way,' or 'I'm sorry you you didn't understand,' are classics, shifting blame over to the other person." Essentially, they think that nothing they do is wrong, and you are being "overdramatic" for being upset. Image Source: iStock
They Always Need To Know What You're DoingThis is a big one that often gets overlooked. Wolfey1618 said, "Constant communication expecting you to answer within a short time frame and getting mad if you don't." If your partner always needs to know where you are and what you're doing, they are trying to be in control of you, which is not healthy. Image Source: iStock
They Make You Feel GuiltyThis is the worst. Have you ever apologized for something that your partner has done? That's manipulation. As nothing_in_my_mind said, "When you apologize for something they have done." They make you think that you are wrong for getting upset, and it's not right. Image Source: iStock
What do you think of these manipulation signs? Tell us in the comments!