Is It Normal If You Don’t Like Masturbating?

Since we talk about masturbating SO much here at Gurl, I realized that it might be a little isolating to girls who don’t like to masturbate. If you do like to get it on with yourself, you might be thinking “But it’s so fun! Why would someone not want to masturbate?!” But it’s important to hear me out for a minute here. If you are a person who identifies as a girl and don’t want to masturbate, that’s okay. You are not a freak, I promise! Even though we are very pro-masturbation at Gurl, that doesn’t mean it’s something you HAVE to do in order to feel sexually liberated. 

If the idea of not masturbating bothers you, let’s chat about it. First, you might want to find out what exactly it is that makes you not want to masturbate. If you’ve tried it and it didn’t feel good, you might want to try and do it again, but with a different method. Maybe add some lube, or go slower. If you aren’t wet enough, it could make the whole thing very unpleasant, which might be why you don’t want to masturbate. Maybe sure you are very comfortable and someplace private if you want to try to get it on. You’ll be surprised how much better it can be when you are more comfortable with yourself.

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Maybe you are  too embarrassed to masturbate, which is a whole other story. You might be scared that your parents will find out, or that it will make you seem “slutty” but that is not the case at all.  You are the only person in control of your body and if you want to masturbate, you TOTALLY should. You don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed for wanting to feel good! If you just don’t get horny, that’s okay! There are a few reasons why that could happening to you. Maybe you started a new medication that lowers your sex drive, or maybe you just have been too stressed to get “in the mood.” If you don’t want to do it, don’t try to push it! Some people just don’t masturbate, and that’s okay.

Even though you might think that everybody is masturbating, it’s not as common as you might think. According to a study conducted by the University of Chicago, only 38 percent of women aged 18 to 60 had masturbated in the last year. That’s compared to 61 percent of men. That’s not that much! If you don’t want to do it, there are a lot of other people who don’t do it as well.

The main thing to know is that whether you masturbate or not is based solely on what makes you happy. If you are happy not masturbating, then don’t do it! If you LOVE masturbating, then you do you girl! Literally! There is nothing wrong with you for wanting or not wanting to have sex or explore your body. You are allowed to if you want to, but it’s not a requirement.

What do you think of these tips? Tell us in the comments!

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