7 Things You Need To Know If You’re Afraid Of Blowjobs

Blowjobs are kind of viewed as the gateway drug of sex, and there are a few reasons why. First of all, oral sex is often performed before intercourse; it’s considered more casual, less intimate and–if we’re talking first time penis and vagina sex–there’s a lot less potential for pain. Second of all, it’s considered to be pretty low risk since you can’t get pregnant from it; still, STDs do exist, guys, so don’t let anyone tell you it’s no risk. Thirdly, it’s just considered way easier than having intercourse because, I mean, it’s literally just putting your mouth on someone’s penis. So there should be very little to worry about when it comes to blowjobs, right? Well, sure, if you’re super confident and sure of your abilities. But for many, giving someone a blowjob for the first time can be super daunting. I was one of those people, and honestly the prospect of performing oral sex on some guy’s junk was equally tantalizing and horrifying. 

If you have next to no experience with a penis, trust me, it’s normal to be intimidated by blowjobs. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise or make you feel like some kind of loser about that. It’s. Normal.

Sure, you could watch some awful porno and for pointers if that makes you feel more prepared. But honestly, in the moment, you’re going to be too busy trying to figure out how to tackle that…thing in front of you than remember what a professional adult entertainer was doing. To help set your mind at ease, check out these seven things you need to know if you’re afraid of blowjobs. It’s not a cureall, but you’ll feel a little less unprepared when the moment finally happens.


Don't Worry: You Probably Won't Bite Their Dick Off

Uh, I don't know about you, but when it came to blowjobs, my biggest fear was that my teeth would get in the way and I'd end up biting my partner or something. Seems like a legitimate fear, right? Well, luckily, when you actually engage in a blowjob, it's pretty easy to keep your teeth out of the way. At the very most you might scrape your teeth against their bits, but you'll realize what's happening pretty quickly and stop. It's incredibly hard to straight up accidentally bite someone's penis during a blowjob. You'd have to literally not know how teeth worked for that to happen.

Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

You Don't Have To Shove A Penis Down Your Throat

Forget about deepthroating and almost everything you've seen in porn when you're giving someone a blow job for the first time. You literally do not have to shove someone's penis down your throat to give someone a pleasurable oral sex experience, understand that right here, right now. Ease yourself into it instead of going straight to level six blowjob stunts. It's so unnecessary and will make you feel silly. Remember: Your comfort shouldn't be neglected at any stage of the blowjob process.

Jawbreaker

Remember To Breathe

You know how making out with someone for the first time can cause you to get so caught up on your lip action that you forget to breathe? Yeah, the same thing can happen when you're giving a blowjob for the first time. Please, your nose has airways for a reason...use them. Deep breathing while you're performing oral will help ease your nerves and make the whole activity a lot less stressful.

The Craft

It's Cool To Ask Questions As You Go Along

You won't look like an amateur if you ask your partner what they like or don't like, what feels good and what feels just okay. You'll look like someone who is actually thoughtful and wants them to have a pleasant sexual experience. That's a lot less embarrassing than just going to town with no idea what you're doing and prompting your partner to stop you because they can't handle the awkward. Plus, some people think it's a bit of a turn on to provide guidance. So, don't be too afraid to ask if your partner is enjoying themselves; just remember not to overdo it. Checking in on them every 20 seconds is not the business.

Some Girls

The Taste Isn't Great, But Not As Bad As You Think

Listen, your partner can eat a whole pineapple and their semen still won't taste like a smoothie, okay? Semen just doesn't taste that good, and while sometimes it can taste better than other times, don't count on it being a pleasant thing to have in your mouth. Whether you spit it out or swallow it is up to you, but just know that while it won't taste great, it also won't taste as bad as you're dreading. If it's any consolation, your bits probably don't taste that great either. Y'all are even, okay?

Clueless

Penises Aren't As Scary As You Think

Yeah, they're a little (okay, super) funny looking, and if you've never really encountered one before, they can be pretty intimidating. But don't despair. It'll be easy after a minute, because you'll quickly realize that penises just aren't that scary once you're actually up close and personal with them. You're just going to have to stare that thing down and do your thing. Soon, you'll laugh at yourself for ever thinking that lil ol' organ was something to be afraid of, I promise you. In retrospect I can hardly believe that penises scared me.

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It'll Get Easier Over Time

This sounds so cliche, but it's true: Blowjobs really get a lot easier once you've gotten the hang of it a couple of times. Everyone has different likes and dislikes on the BJ front, so adjusting to that can be a little different. But just remember to only do it if you feel like it; whoever pressures you to give them a blowjob is an a-hole you shouldn't waste your time on anyway. Plus, be vocal if your partner does things you're not into while you're performing oral sex. If someone starts pulling on your hair, for example, and you're not feelin' it, say something! Anyone who actually respects you won't be offended by your request and will respect your comfort zone.

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