Will Masturbating Hurt If You’ve Never Had Sex?

If you’ve never masturbated before, it’s pretty normal to be nervous. I mean, it’s a whole new experience that you may or may not like and it takes a while to get used to it. A common question we get here at Gurl is if masturbating is supposed to hurt, especially if you are doin’ it for the first time, without ever having sex before. It’s okay! We get it. When it comes to your vaginal health, you really want to be careful and safe, but you want to have fun too. And those things can be hard! Lets me just tell you this: if it hurts when you are masturbating, it’s not good. 

Okay, so here’s the deal, if you’ve never had much going on down there, you might get a little uncomfortable when masturbating for the first time. That’s totally normal, and there is definitely a learning curve you’ll need to get used to. That said, “uncomfortable” and “pain” are two different things, and you don’t want the latter. One of the biggest reasons it could be hurting is that you’re really nervous and you feel like you don’t know what the heck you’re doing. When you’re anxious, it makes your muscles down there clench up, which makes things tighter and more difficult to penetrate, even with a finger. The first thing you need to do, if that’s the case, is take things slow and try to relax as much as possible.

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Once you’re feeling more relaxed, you should make sort of a game plan. There are a lot of different ways to masturbate, and some could be more painful than others for you. If you’re a virgin, then masturbating will probably hurt if you’re using a sex toy like a dildo or a vibrator. It might be easier for you to just stimulate your clitoris by using your finger rather than penetrating yourself with a toy. You also should never use a foreign object like a brush or a toothbrush or a remote. Those things aren’t made for your vagina, and they can easily make things really painful! Plus, if masturbating has been hurting, then it could be because you’re touching the wrong spot – if you think that’s the case, grab a mirror, sit down, and look at yourself down there to get a better idea of what’s going on.

Another thing to think about is how rough you’re being. If you’re moving too fast, using a large object and putting it in too deep, or just being rough in general, that could definitely contribute to unwanted pain. You don’t have to go super slow and be crazy gentle, but take it a little easy down there. It’s a sensitive area and deserve some care!

Lastly, it will definitely be painful if you’re too dry down there. You need lubrication to feel good, even if you’re just using your finger. Sometimes you’ll find that you’re naturally wet, but a lot of times, you won’t be, and that will burn. Always have lube handy – it will make things much smoother and less painful

So, the takeaway here is that masturbating shouldn’t hurt, even if you’re a virgin. It’s something that should be fun and enjoyable, not something that should cause pain. Following the above tips will definitely help, as will going at your own pace and doing what works for you, not just what others do. When you are ready to have sex, it will be great that you have a good idea of what’s going on down there, and masturbating is an awesome way to explore that. So if you have the time and the ~urge~ to do it, then do it! Just make sure it feels good and not painful.

What do you think of these masturbating tips? Tell us in the comments!

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