The other day, this guy at my school I’ve been talking to randomly sent me a picture of his penis. I blocked him and don’t plan on speaking to him again, but I’m still mad and confused. Why do guys like sending dick pics, anyway? And is there any way I can prevent this from happening in the future?
The unwanted, unexpected dick pic is one of the more unsettling moments in life, and it sounds like you’ve already done the right things in terms of blocking him. The only thing left is to publicly embarrass him about the photo, but whether or not you go that far is up to you. There’s nothing wrong with telling mutual friends that he did it, as it was a classless move by a guy that doesn’t deserve a second chance.
The fact that he didn’t instantly apologize or send a “that was for someone else” message indicates that it was completely intentional, so he’s left himself open for public shaming. Regardless, I would stand fast to your blocking of this guy, as he clearly isn’t the type of person you want to be friends with, let alone date.
In terms of why guys do this, there is the simple answer, and then the larger look at our society and how we raise young men. The short answer is that he was hoping to get some sort of response, which would lead to either a return photo from you, or maybe some physical action. He was obviously trying to impress you, and thought you might be into his unprovoked nudity.
Sadly, this is largely reflective of how young men have been raised in our society. Respect for others is still not being taught properly, and it seems that the idea of “acceptable boundaries” is becoming a lost art. Doing things like this has become non-offensive in the mindset of lots of people, and not wanting this sort of thing doesn’t at all make you a prude or uncool. You just don’t want random dicks on your phone, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Unfortunately, there’s really no surefire way to avoid this happening in the future, but if you surround yourself with quality people, it certainly makes it far less likely. Do your best to forget about it, and know that some guys are just thoughtless jerks looking for an ego boost or some action.
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