So, you just got into a relationship. Good for you, girl! Or many you’ve been in a relationship for a while. Whatever the deal is, you are dating someone and that’s cool. Odds are, if you are in a relationship, you are probably ~sexually active~. If you’re not, that’s also cool! It’s completely up to you and whatever you want to do sexually is totally fine. I only bring this up because a common question that young girls ask us is if they can still masturbate, even though they are in a relationship. You might be feeling a little iffy about this yourself, but we are here to help.
First things first: you can and should masturbate if you are in a relationship. It is your body and you have a right to explore yourself and do what makes you feel good. It’s not cheating if you are pleasuring yourself. If you get someone else involved, that IS cheating, but that’s besides the point. The point is that you should never ever feel guilty for masturbating even if you are in a relationship.
You might think that this means that your BF/GF isn’t satisfying your ~needs~ but that’s not always the case. What it really comes down to is the fact that you, and you alone, are in control of your body and if you want to touch yourself, you should. Just because you want to masturbate, it doesn’t mean you and your bae have bad sex, or you don’t like doing it with them. The two are not mutually exclusive. You and you bae can have a great sex life and still want to masturbate all the time, and that’s fine.
Now, if your partner doesn’t want you to masturbate, you might need to have a little talk with them. They can’t really tell you what to do, and you should let them know that just because you are doin’ it to yourself, doesn’t mean you aren’t interested in having sex with them any more! Sometimes, you might get the urge to get it on and you’re not with your partner…so, you masturbate! It’s pretty simple, even though you might think it’s a bad thing.
On the other hand, you also have to be comfortable with the fact that your partner might also masturbate on their own. That is ALSO okay. Even though you are in a relationship, you are two separate beings with separate bodies, and it’s important to understand that. You feel uncomfortable if they watch porn, which is reasonable and something that you might want to talk to them about. But, to recap: masturabting is good. If you do it even though you’re in a relationship, you are not cheating. You are just exploring your own body and having fun, which is your right!
How often do you masturbate? Tell us in the comments!