I’m going to tell you a fun story: when I was in seventh grade, I had a best friend, let’s call her Kate. One day, I told Kate about my HUGE crush on a boy, let’s call him Harry Styles. She was super supportive, said she would go talk to him for me, and then the next day, she told me SHE had a crush on him. Honestly, my 13-year-old heart was crushed, since I thought that she was cooler and prettier than me. Two days later, they ended up a “couple” and, TBH, my friendship with her was never the same. Surprisingly, this was the first of many times that she did that, but I won’t get into that.
Having a crush on someone is complicated enough. When you and your BFF have the same crush, it can be…a mess. You don’t want to ruin your friendship, but you also really want to date your crush! It’s hard AF! I get it, I’ve been there (obviously) and it didn’t work out for me. But, had I known what to do and how to handle to situation, maybe it would have turned out better. So, if you’ve been there, take a look at these tips for if you and your BFF have the same crush. Good luck!
Don't Assume AnythingDon't assume that just because you like a boy and your friend likes a boy, that you will automatically get him, or that she will automatically get him. You never really know what will happen when it comes to this stuff, so you shouldn't think that one of your will 100 percent date the dude. Image Source: Gossip Girl
Try To Both Stop Liking ThemHonestly, it might be for the best to both decide to not date this guy. I know it's a lot easier said than done, but you have to decide if this guy is even worth it. Try to spend some time apart from him and see if he is really deserving of having TWO girls crush on him. Image Source: Degrassi
Talk To Your FriendI know it's hard, but it's actually really important to talk about it. Explain how you feel, let your friend explain how they feel, then see where you can go from there. Don't hold your feelings in! It's not good for either of you, and will just end up hurting both you and your friend. Image Source: New Girl
Make An AgreementOkay, if someone ends up dating this person, you need to decide what you and your friend will do if that happens. I'm not saying you should disregard your friend's feelings, but this stuff does happen, and you need to be prepared for any situation. Will you all hang out together? Will you stop being friends? This is important to consider! Image Source: Lizzie McGuire
Don't BragIf you end up hanging with this dude, good for you! But don't brag about it to your friend. It will just make her feel bad and make things worse. Just think, if she started hanging with him and bragging about it, it would make you feel terrible. You don't want to hurt your friend like that, even if you are crushing on the same guy. Image Source: The OC
Don't Turn It Into A CompetitionThis is the worst thing you can do! It's not a competition, and dating the dude isn't a "prize." If you want to date, that's okay, but you really need to think about WHY you want to date this person. Is it just because your BFF wants to date them? Or do you actually like them? Think about it. Image Source: Riverdale
Don't End A Friendship Over ItWhatever you do, do what's best for your friendship, not for the guy. You might think that this guy is your SOULMATE, but is it worth losing your BFF over? It's said in basically every TV show, but I'll say it here: never let a guy get in between you. I know it's a lot easier said than done and you might feel like you really want to date someone, but is your relationship with this person more important than your relationship with your BFF? Image Source: Riverdale
Has this ever happened to you? What did you do? Tell us in the comments!