If you’re anything like me, you are constantly in awe of how effortlessly cool everybody seems to be these days. Whether it’s IRL or on Instagram, every girl seems to have it all figured out all the time, which can be frustrating when you have no effing idea what you’re doing (same). It’s also frustrating to be in a school full of cool girls when you feel like a mess all the time. Trust me, I get it. I was never ~cool~ in high school, and I was always envious of the other girls who constantly wore Abercrombie and had Blackberries (it was a different time in 2010).
But even now, in 2017, when I’m older and more mature, it can be hard to stay on top of the trends and be a cool girl. With social media, your life is constantly on display for everyone to see, which can be nerve wracking AF. Sure, you want to look cool, but you also want to look smart, funny, pretty and popular, right? Let me tell you this: it’s impossible to be all of those things, and you shouldn’t ever change yourself to fit in. BUT, there are some little things that you can do that can make you SEEM super cool, even if you are secretly a weirdo which, TBH, we all are. So, if you want to seem cool without actually having to do that much, take a look at these easy tips for being effortlessly cool.
Fake ConfidenceIt's so easy to say "just be confident!" but actually acting that way is a lot harder. Fortunately, you can fake confidence, which will make you come off as someone who is sure of herself and super cool. It's okay if you don't know how to fake confidence - we've got some tips for you. Pretend you know what you're doing when it counts, and people will believe you, even if you're feeling clueless. Image Source: Clueless
Work On Body LanguageWeirdly enough, body language is the key to making it seem like you've got your life all figured out. The right body language can make you seem confident and helps you engage with others, which is a really big part of seeming cool. When you're talking to someone, be sure to look them in the eyes, or touch their arm when it feels natural. When you're just sitting somewhere, pay attention to what your body is doing. Slouching, picking at your nails, biting your lip, playing with your hair... these are all things that make you seem nervous and uncomfortable. Sitting up straight, focusing on what you're doing, and not fidgeting make you seem sure of yourself. Image Source: Mean Girls
Don't Share Too MuchHave you ever heard the tip to be mysterious when dating? A lot of people give this dating advice because acting mysterious can make your date want to know more about you - it's intriguing. The same can go for the impression you make on people in general. In today's world, sharing everything and more on social media is part of life, but that doesn't mean you have to do it. Sharing every detail of every moment of your day is great for some people, but if you want others to ~wonder~ about you, then you have to be a little more mysterious. Share only what you want, and keep people guessing. Odds are, they will just want to get to know you MORE. And, of course, if you're like, "eff this, I love over-sharing," then keep over-sharing! Being seen as "cool" is ultimately being yourself, so... do you, girl. Image Source: Edge Of Seventeen
Wear What Makes You Feel AwesomeHere's the difference between someone who dresses in an effortlessly cool way, and someone who seems confused: the person who looks amazing is the person who is wearing what they feel good in. The person who looks off is the person who is trying too hard. Let me explain. Looking cool is not about following every single trend or buying clothes in only the popular stores or showing off labels. Fashion is different for everyone, and if you want to look like you woke up and slipped on the coolest outfit ever without thinking, it has to come naturally to you. Some of the coolest girls wear items from thrift stores or clothes they DIYed themselves, or they just tweaked random items. Don't try to blindly follow the trends, because if you're not wearing what's right for you, it will show. Image Source: Gilmore Girls
Have Your Friends AroundThere are a ton of ways to feel confident, and one easy way is to keep you friends around you at all time. When you are with your squad, you will be able to take on the WORLD (or at least the halls of your high school). Plus, it will look like you are super popular and people will totally want to hang around you. Image source: Skins
Try Not to Care TOO MuchOkay, I don't mean to completely give up on everything. But if you care a little bit less and try to ~live in the moment~ more, it can help you seem a lot more chill, if that makes sense. Instead of freaking out about people liking you, just make sure YOU like you, then eff the rest. It's corny, but whatever. You have to do you, and if you care too much about what people are thinking, you won't seem cool at all. Image Source: Easy A
Accentuate Your Best QualitiesI know this sounds silly, but it's important. If you're always thinking about how great you are, odds are it will show. If your best quality is your sense of humor, use that to your advantage! You will seem cool AF when you are sure of yourself and doing what you do best. Image Source: Riverdale
Are you going to try use any of these tips? Tell us in the comments!