A lot of things are hard when you’re an introvert, and this is especially true when it comes to having a relationship with anyone – it can be a nightmare. On the one hand, you want to stay home and do your own thing forever; on the other hand, you do want to be able to hang with people, especially your crush, without having to feel uncomfortable. How will they fall in love with you if you never hang IRL? You do need to hang out with them at some point, even though it’s daunting. I know that making plans with someone is super intimidating, but there are some ways to make it a little easier to hang with your crush, even if you consider yourself a bit of an introvert.
The good part about the internet is that it’s filled with so many other introverts, and a lot of them flock to the same sites, like Reddit. I recently found a thread of easy and stress-free date tips for introverts. Honestly, they are pretty important! Dating shouldn’t only be allowed for people who are super extroverted and social. If you want to hang with your crush, you totally should, even if you are an introvert. If you’re a little hesitant, it’s okay, take a look at these simple tips for hanging with your crush, even when you’re an introvert.
Don't Bring Your FriendsBuloi92 said, "Just for the love of god, don't bring your friends." You might think that bringing your friends will ease some pressure, but it can actually make things a little too overwhelming for you and might make it hard for your crush to talk to you. Try to hang out just one-on-one so you can get a lot of alone time with your crush. Image Source: iStock
Go To A MuseumTheGoldenPilot said, "Do something where there's something to do besides focusing on each other all the time because things can get awkward really fast, but where you can still decide to if you find you really fancy them. A trip to the museum sounds good mostly because of this, rather than how well it fits my personal interests." Image Source: iStock
Go To A BookstoreCanteen007 said, "Bookstore dates are the best. There are unlimited things to talk about because every book is a topic of discussion. And you can really get to know a person by what kind of books they look at." Going somewhere ~chill~ like a bookstore is actually a great idea. There isn't a lot of pressure, and you can fill any awkward silence by picking up a book. Image Source: iStock
Just Walk AroundAlpha-Pancake said, "One-on-one, walking around town, just talking and hanging out somewhere. I prefer walking around because changing scenery makes my brain move from topic to topic easier, thus reducing stagnant conversation." This actually makes a lot of sense! Walking around is good, especially if you get fidgety around your crush. It lets you release some energy, and it also means you don't have to have intense eye contact with your crush the entire time. Image Source: iStock
Give Yourself Time To PrepareDildogiftcard said, " if I have some time to mentally prepare I can be the life of the party (although I'll be pooped afterwards)." If you have time to get ready and mentally prepare, you might be able to shake off those nerves and come out of your shell a little bit. So, make sure you give yourself some time before you hang to have some "you" time. Image Source: iStock
Only Do Stuff You're Comfortable WithIf you're not really down with going to the a book store or museum, suggest something that you're comfortable with, even if that's just sitting around and watching a movie. As TatteredUser1138 said, "I'm going to be building a fort and listening to music/watching movies with the person I'm after. It seems like it'll be pretty great, and give quite the nostalgic feel." Doing something that you're comfortable with will make the whole experience a lot easier and less anxiety-inducing. Image Source: iStock
Cancel If You NeedIt's okay to cancel. A lot of Reddit users went on to say that cancelling plans is actually okay and lessens the pressure, "Especially when you made plans when you were feeling much more outgoing," says jkish95. Just be sure to reschedule for a time when you think you'll be ready! Image Source: iStock
Are you going to use any of these introvert dating tips? Tell us in the comments!