When you’re in high school and sometimes even in college, you’ll spend a lot of time desperately wanting the people around you to think you’re mature and grown-up – this is especially true if you try to impress older people or your parents. There’s nothing wrong with that (most people spend their younger years wishing they were older, and then regretting that later on, although that’s another story), it’s just that it usually results in you purposely doing the wrong things to come off as more mature. Real maturity is a bit more difficult to grasp onto than saying certain things or wearing certain clothes. Oftentimes the things we think make us look older backfire completely, and make us look immature.
Of course, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t things you can do to look more mature – there are some tips and tricks out there on looking put together and older that really work and fool people (this is an adult secret). It’s just that these tips usually require a little bit more time and effort than you might think, and honestly? They can be difficult to nail down as well. You might not be able to fake maturity, so why bother? If you’re confused, check out these things you’re doing that you think make you seem more mature when they’re actually doing the exact opposite. And don’t feel bad – we have all been there!
Drinking CoffeeI used to think that it was a super ~adult~ thing to drink coffee. I would buy it and feel really cool and old even if I didn’t exactly love the taste of it. Now I know that it’s not a sign of being mature – no one is looking at you holding a Starbucks cup thinking, “Oh my God, look at this adult” - it’s just something people drink if they’re tired, over-worked, or they just like the taste of it. Also, while there are a lot of great things about it, caffeine is an addictive drug, so… just something to keep in mind. Image Source: iStock
Having A Credit CardIt might seem very adult-like to whip out a credit card when you’re shopping, but… it isn’t. Sorry. Using plastic to pay for something later while it acquires interest doesn’t make you seem responsible – saving money in the bank does. Actually saving your money is the thing that will make you look more mature. Spending $150 on Sephora products with your Amex does not. Image Source: iStock
Not Doing Things That Are For Kids, Even If You Want ToWhen I was in elementary school, I remember thinking that I was too mature for trick or treating, so I didn't go, and I regretted it. Skipping out on a tradition you like just because it seems childish doesn’t always equal maturity. It might on a superficial level, but first of all, probably no one will notice, and second, you’ll be bummed. It’s not worth it! Image Source: iStock
Not Listening To Teachers/ Authority FiguresAt some point, you might feel like you've learned all that you've needed to learn from your parents or teachers. That probably isn't really the case. Even though you might think that you can ignore the advice your parents give you, you should really keep what they say in mind. Image Source: iStock
Going To CollegeJust going to college doesn't make you mature. In fact, a lot of college students are just as immature as high schoolers, because they don't know how to handle the freedom and responsibility of being on their own. It takes a long time to get into the swing of things at college, and odds are good that you will make a few immature choices your first year (or two). Image Source: iStock
Drinking AlcoholNot to sound like your parents, but drinking doesn’t make you look mature, especially if you’re drinking so much that you’re getting wasted and doing and saying really stupid things. If that’s the case, you are absolutely looking immature to everyone around you. Keep that in mind the next time you go out with your friends and try to impress someone. Image source: iStock
Having SexUnfortunately, you don't need to be mature to have sex. Also, having sex doesn't make you maure. Just because you are sexually active does not mean you know everything there is to know about sex and life. It takes a lot of time and effort to be in a mature relationship, and just having sex with your partner won't make it an "adult" relationship. I'm not saying that you are IMMATURE for having sex, just make sure you're doing it when you're ready, and not when you think you should be ready. Image Source: iStock
Wearing HeelsOkay, heels can make you look fab AF, but they can also make you seem a little over the top. You might want to wear your heels to your school, but it isn't really a good idea. I mean, you do you, but it won't really make you seem grown up or mature, all they do is make you a little taller. On the other hand, if you feel confident wearing heels and that makes you feel mature, go for it. Image Source: iStock
Do you think you are mature? Tell us in the comments!