Recently, a brand new “dating trend” caught my attention. It’s weird to call it a dating trend, really, since it occurs when you’re not actually dating, but stick with me here: the new trend is called “haunting” and, no, it’s not the same thing as ghosting, even if they sound similar. Haunting refers to that situation many of us have been in before – you used to hook up with someone or seriously date them, but then things didn’t work out. Whether the breakup was mutual or messy, you assumed it was over, the metaphorical flame had gone out, and you were moving on. That is, until, one day months later when, completely out of nowhere, your ex bae tries to get in touch with you. They are haunting you.
It sounds creepy, it also sounds hilarious, TBH. Haunting came about when girls started realizing that their past ghosts (exes) are still keeping tabs on them. AKA haunting. What does it mean when an ex starts haunting you? Well, it can be a few things: maybe they are just curious about your life or genuinely care. Or maybe, just maybe, they actually are not over you, and are wistfully watching your social media accounts, waiting for the moment to make a move. They aren’t over you, and this is how they’re showing it. But how do you know for sure? For starters, take a look at these obvious signs a guy totally isn’t over you and is, in fact, haunting you. (BTW: You should keep in mind that there is a fine line between “haunting” and “semi-stalking” so if a past bae ever gets too creepy on you, you shouldn’t ignore it.)
They Are Watching Your Social Media StoriesThis is the most common form of haunting. They aren't REALLY reaching out to you, but they know that you can see that they saw it. It's a tricky and weird situation, since they aren't technically talking to you, but they are interacting with you in some way, which means they might still be into you. Image Source: iStock
They Are Liking Your Tweets...Even If They Unfollowed YouDo you ever get a like from someone who doesn't even FOLLOW you? That's haunting. It means they are still actively looking you up, even though you don't follow each other anymore. I had to admit that I have done this in the past after not being over someone, and it just feels silly to be so invested in someone who isn't as invested in you. If someone is doing this to you, you might need to block them to get them to stop. Image Source: iStock
They Stay Friends With Your FriendsIt's one thing if your ex was already friends with your group of friends before you started dating. It's another thing if they actively hang out with your friends and post about it on social media. They are trying to get your attention by using your friends, and it can mean they still want you in their life. Image Source: iStock
They Ask About YouIn addition to hanging with your friends, they might ask about you. Sure, they could be doing it to be nice, but it could also be their weird way of keeping tabs on you, or haunting you from behind your back. If your friend says your ex still asks about you, they might not be 100 percent over you. Image Source: iStock
They Keep In Touch With Your FamilyIf your ex hangs with your fam, they are still trying to stay connected to you sometimes, and they can be a little weird if you've broken up. If you're comfortable with it and don't mind your ex being friends with your siblings or parents then that's fine, but they could be doing it as a way to get close to you. Image Source: iStock
They Like Your FB MemoriesThis is just annoying. Do you ever get a Facebook memory notification of a pic of you and your ex, and your ex likes, comments or sends it to you? That's not cool. They are using your past memories to haunt you into thinking about them, which can mean they are not over you. If you're not over them aswell, then it could be a good way to spark up a relationship, but it could also be a way of them sneaking back into your life. Image Source: iStock
They Text YouYes, this is obvious, but I had to say it. If your ex texts you a lot, they might not be over you. They might be trying to hang on to you for as long as they can, as ghosts do when they haunt someone. Image Source: iStock
Have you ever been “haunted?” Tell us in the comments!