I know that a lot of girls want an ~epic~ fairytale romance that could one day inspire a Nicholas Sparks novel. It’s nice to have standards and aspirations! After all, you don’t want to settle for someone who is just eh. You want to find someone who will treat you will respect and who you can actually trust and have fun with. That’s not too much to ask, right? Not at all. But unfortunately, there is such a thing as standards that are way too high – some young girls begin to get so caught up in the idea of a fairytale romance that they actually ruin their current relationship. And it sucks! Let me explain.
If you spend your entire relationship with someone expecting that it’s going to be some earth-shattering romance movie, then you’re just going to be let down. Don’t get me wrong, you need to have an idea of what you want out of a relationship, but there are some dating expectations that are just not practical. I recently came across a Reddit thread titled, “what unrealistic expectations do young women have about dating?” This sparked some pretty interesting (and sometimes annoying) comments from guys who want you to know what they are REALLY thinking. I found the best ones and wanted to show they to you since they are pretty real. So, check out these unrealistic dating expectation that you really need to forget about already.
You Need To Be Together ALL THE TIMEceelo122 said, "That from that point on everything is done together 24/7. That we no longer have separate lives or feelings." Suffocation in a relationship is a real thing. You need to be able to communicate, but you also need to be able to spend time on your OWN, or else you won't be happy together. Image Source: iStock
Everything Will Be Easy When You're In Loveradicalrile said, "We are under the impression often that if it's the right one, nothing will be hard, but that just isn't true. If you're with someone for years and years and you've never disagreed or been upset then someone is lying." Nothing comes easy, especially in relationships! You can't expect everything to magically fall into place. Relationships are hard work, and you need to spend time to make them successful. Image Source: iStock
You Can Only date People Taller Than YouariesXL said, "I've noticed that some have like a min height requirement of something huge like 6'5 when they're like 5'0. I wouldn't say I'm super short (5'7) but It's not like they're the cream of the crop, stop acting like you are." It's okay to have a preference, but stop ruling out guys who are a little shorter than you want, okay? It's just not fair. Image Source: iStock
Your Bae Always Knows What To Doonly1dreams said, "Guys know what they're doing." If you learn one thing from dating...it's that guys NEVER know what they are doing, okay? You shouldn't rely on them all the time, it can get dangerous and tricky. Image Source: iStock
Your Love Will Be Like The Moviesurchigold said, "The idealized romance part of it. I had an ex who, while we were going out, complained that we didn't meet 'by locking eyes from across a crowded room and knowing we were meant for one another' or something." Sure, relationships are awesome, but just because you don't feel that ~movie magic~ from someone doesn't mean they aren't right for you. Image Source: iStock
You Will Meet A Disney Princerichardcano said. "I went out with a girl once in college who said she's "waiting for her Disney moment." As in she wanted to meet the flawless prince who would take her away and everything would be perfect after that." Sorry, but those things don't happen IRL. No one guy will "save you" and make everything better. You have to do that yourself! Image Source: iStock
You Will Be Happy All The Time!rootdown5494 said, "That being in a relationship will automatically make her happy and if she isn't happy it's all your fault for not making her happy." You can't expect your bae to make your life easy AF. They have their own problems to worry about! Focus on making yourself happy first, then work on a relationship. Image Source: iStock
They Will Know What You're Thinkingsalvocamiller said, " Not reciprocating communication (i.e. playing hard to get) to the point of losing the man's interest," Talk. To. Your Partner. It matters. Don't assume that they know what you're thinking, because, TBH, they never do. Image Source: iStock
Are you guilty of giving in to any of these unrealistic dating expectations? Tell us in the comments!