If you’re ever been in an “I don’t want labels, but I do want validation and love” type of situation, it can be hard to know if that is actually “real.” When I say real, I don’t mean a “we are going to be together forever” type of relationship, I just mean a relationship that is fun and makes you happy, all while still being healthy and mature. It can be hard to know if your relationship is going to last (at least for a bit), or if it’s just a fling that will burn out in a month. If that’s what you want then that’s fine! It’s just good for you to know these things. But, how do you know them? It’s pretty simple: learn the green flags.
Recently, I came across an interesting Reddit thread titled, “What are some green flags in a relationship?” I found that to be pretty cool, since I had only ever heard to term “red flag” AKA the reason you should dump someone ASAP. But, apparently, a green flag is a sign that what you have is stable and mature, which can be very important to some people who feel the need to be secure in a relationship. If you are one of those people, take a look at these green flags that show that your relationships is for real.
They Listen To You (Like, Actually)I don't mean "yeah I heard you ask me for a pencil" listen. I mean "I remember you talking about wanting to see this movie, so I bought us tickets" type of listening. As lilbeanies says, "they actually remember the little things you have said before." It' one thing to listen to what your partner says, it's another to actually remember and bring it up later. It shows that they actually really care about the things you say, which is awesome. Image Source: iStock
They Learn About The Things You LikeThey don't HAVE to listen to One Direction, but if they do it just to know a little bit more about what you like, then that's a really good sign. As jrtaylor414 says, "Actively wanting to be involved/learn about the things you like." If they care about you, they will care about what you love! Image Source: iStock
They Take ResponsibilityThis is so important! As old_gold_mountain says, "When you do something that annoys, inconveniences, or insults them without realizing it, they tell you about it and ask that you not do it again. On the flipside, when they do something like that to you and you tell them about it, they apologize and accept that they were wrong." When your partner is aware of your feelings and actively remembering what you say, it means your relationship is super healthy and will last long. Image Source: iStock
Your Dog Likes ThemThis is silly, but pets actually do have a weird sense for these things. If they think your date is creepy, they will let you know. If they love them, it's a pretty good sign. Abiteverday said, "The first time I went over to [her] house, she started by warning me that her dog 'was adopted from a shelter, and is usually pretty skittish or even aggressive' for some reason. Dog was in my lap trying to lick me before the sentence was finished." Image Source: iStock
You Miss ThemThe_last_moose said, "When you go to bed alone at night, and you miss lying down/sleeping next to them. To me this highlights that I can relax and be myself around them. Moreover, it also indicates that they don't stress me out. Sleeping next to someone who makes you feel comfortable and relaxed is one of the small keys to happiness." Physical intimacy is really important, and if you find yourself missing someone, chances are they are a keeper. Unless your attraction is purely physical, though. But that's a different story. Image Source: iStock
You Make The Same JokesFuschszugzwang said, "When you're about to make a joke and they make the same joke seconds before it is out of your mouth." Hey, a sense of humor is important, and if you share that, it can mean that you are in a pretty awesome relationships. Or they can read your mind. Probably the former, though. Image Source: iStock
They Let You Live Your LifeLnddGrmmr brings up a very important point, "When they say the following and mean it- Them: You wanna do something this evening? Me: Ah sorry, I have plans with my friends this evening. Them: Not a problem, have a nice time!" You need to be able to be your own person, and your partner needs to respect that! Image Source: iStock
You Don't Feel Like You Need Each OtherIt's obviously nice to need people, but you should rely on someone every second of every day. As Leuku says, "When you both reach a point where you are together because you want to be together, but don't feel like you need to be together." This is very important! You should never feel like you are doomed without someone, and if you feel that type of way with someone, it's not the sign of a good relationship. Image Source: iStock
What are more green flags? Tell us in the comments!