Have you heard of the relationship phrase “the honeymoon period?” It’s basically the period of your relationship that is fresh, new, and super exciting. You know how a honeymoon happens right after a wedding, at the height of marital bliss? Think of it as that, but for you and your partner. Usually, this phrase is used in a more negative way, as in, the honeymoon period of your relationship is over. From a super cynical point of view, that means that your relationship lost the sparks, you’re not crazy about every single thing about your boo, and even a couple that never ever fought ends up finding themselves in arguments.
But honestly…it’s not the end of the world if your honeymoon period is over! It can be a challenge, sure, but if you can overcome little tiffs and get over the fact that you’re not a puddle of goo whenever you’re around each other anymore, the post-honeymoon period could actually mean that your relationship is really healthy and strong. Your relationship isn’t getting boring, it’s just getting more grounded and serious. Check out these seven signs that your relationship is mature for proof that there don’t need ot be fireworks going off when you and bae make out for your relationship to still be awesome.
You're Not Feeling Butterflies, But You Have Your MomentsMaybe in the early days of your relationship, just thinking about your partner made you turn into a shivering puddle of goo. Now? Not so much. Don't panic, it's normal. As long as you still have those moments--random little things--that remind you how crazy in love you are with bae, it's all good. Bring It On
You're A Lot Less Self-ConsciousIn the early days of a relationship, everything can sort of feel like a long audition process. You always want to give a good impression, you always want to look good, you always want your bae to be really impressed with you. AFter the honeymoon phase is over, that requirement feels a lot less important. There's nothing wrong with "letting yourself go." It's good if you feel more comfortable around each other. A relationship shouldn't feel stressful like that, girl. My Mad Fat Diary
You Don't Always Feel The Need To Do Stuff All The TimeIn the early stages of a relationship, there's a lot of pressure to always have a lot of fun things to do together, like going to concerts, having dinner, hanging out and doing all kinds of cute, spontaneous what have yous. It's all really fun, but at some point it slows down, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. It just means that you two feel less need to do those kinds of gestures. Clueless
Your Sex Life Is Still Poppin'Who cares if you guys aren't always doing something super exciting? Is your sex life still good? Are you still enjoying those make out sessions? Then it's all gucci. But I'm A Cheerleader
There's (Virtually) No DramaOkay, every couple has their moments, and sometimes it gets ugly. But the less that little things blow up into some big mess of drama full of paranoia about love lost and all that crap...you know you're on the right track. Submarine
You're Bored, But In A Good WaysYou take a minute and think, huh, you and bae are kind of...boring these days. You aren't always going out together, you guys aren't always hamming it up for an Instagram post like you did when you became official, things are...cooling down. That's not a bad thing as long as it doesn't feel like the love between you two is dying down too. It is possible to be bored in a good way, you know? It's nice when you can just chill with each other on the sofa for hours and not feel obligated to do performative AF couple activities. Skins
You're Talking About The FutureYou might not be together forever, but that hasn't stopped you two from having substantive discussions about your future together, if any. You're not in the "OMG what if we get married" level of delusion, you're keeping it real about what paths you two might take. These conversations might be a exciting, they might be downers, but you're having them and it doesn't feel weird or like things are moving too fast. That '70s Show
Are you worried that the honeymoon period is over in your relationship? Do you actually think that can be a good thing? Tell us in the comments!