8 Cold Hard Truths About Having A Threesome

There is oodles and oodles of stuff written about sex. No matter what you have a question about, you can find it, no matter how niche, random, or weird you think it is. And here at Gurl, we try to cover as much stuff as possible. However, when we take a general look at sexy time stuff, I would bet that threesomes are one of the highest scoring topics…after anal of course.

Bringing it back to threesomes, sex between two people is often complicated enough. And when you add in another person, it becomes even more so. It’s not just the logistics of where you all have to put your body parts. It’s also the emotional and mental things that you have to factor in. As well as the longer term outcomes.

If you’re debating about having a threesome, there are a lot of things that you need to think about before you do the deed. And that includes these cold hard truths. You may not want to think about some of them, but it’s important to be aware of them before you get involved with things. Check out eight cold hard truths about having a threesome.


Someone Could Spill The Details

When you hook up with anyone, there is always potential that they should share the details. It doesn't matter whether you hooked up with one person, two people, or twenty at once. Just note that the odds of someone airing details about your sexy session go up more and more for each person that is involved.

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A Threesome Can Be An "Excuse" To Cheat

It sounds awful, but it's true. You can look at a threesome as being adventurous and you can also look at is as an opportunity to have sex with someone else without technically being unfaithful in your relationship. If bae is looking for love somewhere else but still wants to have a *clean conscience* and not cheat on you, a threesome can be something like a scapegoat.

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They're Not As Hot As You Think

Threesomes have gained this super hot reputation thanks to porn and horny teenage boys, but in reality, they can sometimes be the opposite of hot. Besides dealing with jealousy, you're dealing with all of those limbs and making sure everyone gets a piece of the action. A lot of time, they involve waiting around, awkwardly watching, or getting accidentally kicked in the stomach. Hot stuff, eh?

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Threesomes Won't Fix Your Relationship

Are you considering a threesome because your sex life, and relationship in general seem a bit stale and in need of some help? Sorry, but that threesome isn't a remedy. In fact, a threesome can often be the thing that helps people end their relationship because it makes them realize their true feelings are for someone else or for a fresh start.

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You Will Be Comparing Bodies

Even if you don't want to, you will find yourself looking. It's hard not to when you have all that flesh right in front of you. If you're with another girl, you'll likely be comparing your bod to hers. Plus, you'll be wondering what bae thinks about it. Similarly, if you're with two guys, you'll probably end up comparing them. You can't really help it, you just will.

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And The Other People Will Be Comparing Bodies

If you're sizing up the people in the threesome, you can expect others are going to be, too. It's really hard for anyone not to. It's almost something that everyone does unconsciously.

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Jealousy Is Common

You might think that everything is going to be all three of you at all the times, but the logistics of that aren't really possible. Sometimes two people will be going at it while the other one is taking a breather. And all it can take is a kiss or a few minutes too long doing something for jealously to rear its ugly head. Sometimes just a look or a comment can start the jealous feelings. Be prepared for your own feelings of jealously and those from other peeps.

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Sometimes One Person Does Get Left Out

And sometimes that person can be you. Sorry to say, but it happens. When you're in the heat of the moment, sometimes people don't thinking about a *sharing* threesome mentality. Sometimes they are just too focused on pleasure. And sometimes they realize they have a connection with someone and that someone isn't you.

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