Your parents are the authoritative figures in your family–or, at least, they’re supposed to be. These grown adults have everything figured out and behave accordingly, right? You could be wrong. Maturity isn’t always guaranteed when it comes to your parents. In fact, it might not be there at all. Parents can still be totally immature and come up short when it comes to things like emotional intelligence and empathy, even though they love you and constantly harp on how you’re the center of their world. They could (and probably do) love you more than anything else on the planet! This, however, might not be enough to stop some adults from behaving like straight-up kids.
Ever feel like you have to parent your parents? Then you’ll know what I’m talking about. People of any age can act childish. We all don’t magically evolve into articulate, compassionate citizens of the world upon turning eighteen or as soon as we get married or have a child. These major life events can wind up having the reverse effect on parents and actually prevent them from being as grown up as you think they should be. There’s not much to do about it other than attempting a rational conversation, but even then, if you’re the more mature counterpart, you know how fruitless and exhausting that can be. These are eight signs your parents are actually more immature than you.
They're A Little *Too* Into Being The Cool ParentYou might have chill, relaxed parents and still have them be mature. You can also be friends with your parents, so long as you're both aware that they're your parents first and your BFF second. But if your parents are just a little too into trying to fit in with you and your friends, invite themselves to hang around when you have people over, or pride themselves on being "not like other moms/dads," they're being immature. Your wellbeing should come first--not their coolness ranking among other parents. Mean Girls
They Basically See You As An Extension Of ThemselvesNo separation, no giving you autonomy or respecting your choices, since, according to them, you're *their* kid, you're more or less an automaton that only answers to them and speaks for them when separated from your parents. Um, no. This kind of controlling, obsessive behavior and taking things way, way too personally when it comes to you - shockingly - being your own person is a sure sign that your parents' emotional maturity is not quite there.Carrie
They're Super Competitive With YouYou can never be skinnier, prettier, more successful, go to a better school, or have more friends than your parents. Why? Because that would mean that you win and that's not allowed to happen! They could even pit siblings against each other to compete to drive a wedge between them. They might take passive aggressive jabs at you or try to one-up you in certain situations, or at the worst, get in the way of your growth and success for the sheer purpose of keeping you down. It happens! And if it's happening to you, you know this behavior is totally childish and weird to deal with when it comes to your parents.Mom
They Need Constant Attention And ValidationYour parents need to be the center of attention and to feel like the whole world knows and recognizes what Amazing Parents and people they are. They're a little needy when it comes to attention and need constant approval from everyone about everything and they'll do whatever it takes to get it including being fake in public and totally different when they're at home, straight up lying to others, and being emotionally dependent with you (and for the record, that's not supposed to be a mutual thing: kids are supposed to be emotionally dependent on parents, not the other way around). Arrested Development
They Have Little To No Empathy When It Comes To YouSo, you have to apply for college or rehearse all night long for the school play? That "stresses you out"? At least you don't have to work for a living!Situations like this where they show you no sympathy for your situation or even try to understand what you're going through to the point where they belittle or ignore your struggles is a really immature way of handling things. You're their kid! They're supposed to listen at bare minimum! But if you feel like the total opposite, it's not your fault, your parents are just not mature in that way.Masters Of Sex
They Take Absolutely Everything Out On YouFirst of all, that's not the best way to cope with anything. If you feel like an emotional punching bag for something that you totally didn't do, or they blew up over something not that big of a deal, that might be a sign that they're reacting to something that has literally nothing to do with you and everything to do with something else they can't resolve. So, instead they take it out on their kid. Sounds healthy, right? If you've been there, you know how wrong it actually is.Mad Men
They're Emotionally ManipulativeThey'll withhold money, affection, throw around weird ultimatums, or let you in on a secret so you have to carry it around in an unfair way in order to get what they want. I know your parents are all grown adults, but grown people can throw the meanest tantrums, blame you for everything, and expect you to be the grown up in the situation when in reality, it should be the other way around. Emotional manipulation is never okay, and it's even more not okay when it's coming from your parents.True Blood
They Need Everything To Go Their Way Or ElseTheir needs and wants come first and they'll do whatever it takes to make sure it goes that way. And yes, parents by nature are usually authoritative, but there's a difference between being a parent and throwing a fit when something doesn't go their way. The consequences of things not going their way are usually large and out of proportion because your parents aren't used to disappointment and don't know how to deal. It sucks.Shameless
Do your parents act this way? How do you handle it? Let us know in the comments!
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