Nothing says you’re definitely a teenager quite like people expecting grown-up level responsibility out of you while still treating you like a child. Seriously, WTF?! Parents, teachers, and basically every authority figure expect you to act mature and responsible while simultaneously telling you you’re “too young” whenever it suits them. This is frustrating for so many reasons, and it happens because they don’t see you as grown up, they see you as childish. It can be really, really hard to get older people to see you as grown up, mainly because they don’t want to, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. There are some little things you can do and changes you can make that will make you seem more adult-like in their eyes.
You can’t age yourself up, but you can adjust some signs that tell someone you’re more grown up than people give you credit for, and some of the things you can do are surprising. I mean, you can act as mature as you want, but if you’re still wearing the same haircut you’ve had since you were five, you’re going to have a hard time convincing the people closest to you that you’re older now. It sounds stupid, but it’s true. If you want to be treated as an adult, you need to put effort into how you look as well as how you act. Ready to get your parents to start listening to you, treating you like you have your life together, and respecting your point of view? Here are a few things that will make you seem more grown up:
1) Start carrying your money in a real wallet.
No more Ziploc bags or cramming wads of cash into your change purse. Get a new, larger wallet that has slots for cards and cash. Look for something sleek and simple that makes a little impression.
2) Wear clothes that actually fit you.
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Whatever your size and shape, getting clothes that fit you will instantly make you look put together and chic. Ignore the size labels if you can because they’re literally just made up units of measurement. Buy things that fit well instead of baggy sweatshirts or sweatpants. Your appearance is what makes the first impression, like it or not.
3) Curate your own sense of style.
Get yourself some classic wardrobe staples and start to develop your own sense of style. It might sound overwhelming, especially if you aren’t super into fashion or shopping (hello, me, I’m with you), but just think of three adjectives that represent what you want your style to embody. Then, presto! You have an easy way to start shopping for new pieces, get rid of the things that don’t align with it, and pretty soon, you’ll have yourself a personalized style with a closet full of clothes you love.
4) Change Up Your Hair.
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One of the easiest ways to change up your appearance is to change up your hair. There’s really no such thing as a “grown-up hairstyle,” but you can look more put together and mature by taking care of your strands. Get regular trims, brush it, put it in a hairstyle rather than just lopping it up into a messy bun, etc.
5) Accessorize smartly and simply.
You can still be bold and out there, just maybe consider removing one accessory before leaving the house if you’re prone to piling stuff on. Keep your accessories simple and pick them deliberately. If you’re going for a statement piece, keep the rest of your look simple. Learning styling basics will instantly make you look more grown up.
6) Wear a bra that actually fits you.
The single item in your closet that will completely change how your body looks is your bra. Get one that fits if you haven’t already! One that doesn’t dig into your back, the straps don’t fall down, and your boobs actually fill the cup without overflowing. Constantly picking at your bra or having it pop out at random moments isn’t a good look for anyone.
7) Give your bedroom a more mature makeover.
Yeah, it’s your parent’s house, but if you haven’t given your bedroom an update since you were nine, it might be time for a redesign. Browse Pinterest and find things that you like. Even something as simple as getting a new rug or chair could make you feel like someone more mature lives there. I had carousel wallpaper for longer than I’d like to admit. You know if you desperately need a bedroom makeover.
8) Have amazing manners.
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Nothing speaks to maturity quite like having impeccable manners. Being kind, knowing good table etiquette, and being polite will earn you tons of grown-up points when it comes down to it.
9) Remember your posture.
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This sort of goes along with manners, but sit up straight and stand tall. Slumping makes you look younger and like you aren’t confident. Ever hear of “fake it till you make it”? Well, get to it, then!
10) Carry extra pens and tampons.
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Everyone always needs a pen, and everyone needs a tampon when they’re in a pinch. Be helpful and carry spares. It’ll help you in the long run and also your friends, if they’re in need. You know how it always feels like grown ups are always prepared? That’s an easy thing to be! Throw some spares in your bag and you’re good to go.
11) Keep your calendar in one spot.
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Between Google Calendar, tracking stuff on your phone, and your school’s agenda planner, your tasks and life is going to be totally scattered. Keep everything in one spot and stick to it. Pick one medium and put it all on there instead of being so spread out.
12) Get an e-mail that doesn’t sound cutesy or silly.
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The recipe for having an e-mail that you aren’t going to be embarrassed about is having something with your initials or name plus or minus a few numbers at gmail dot com. That’s it. If you’re too embarrassed to give your e-mail to other people, it’s a good sign that you need to change it to something less cartoonish.
13) Have a strong handshake.
Learn how to properly shake someone’s hand. Have a strong grip and don’t flop around for longer than necessary. We all saw how awkward it is when someone doesn’t know how to shake hands (*cough*DONALDTRUMP*cough*), so age yourself up by getting a grown person’s handshake.
14) Stay organized.
back at university for second year tomorrow!!✨ i’m quite excited to get back into routine and catch up with my uni friends!? i’m definitely in need of my bullet journal for keeping myself organised in these upcoming weeks! ? what organisation method do you like best??
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Even if you feel totally unsure about everything else in your life, at least it can look like you’ve got it all together. Organize everything from your dresser drawers to your locker to your beauty supplies. Keep your things nice and tidy and you will instantly look more mature to anyone who’s taking a glance at your life.
Which one of these things are you going to do? Do you have/do some of these things already? What helps you feel more mature? Let us know in the comments!
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