I want to get ~real~ with you for a minute. Being a teen can make it hard to talk about things, but it can REALLY make it hard to talk about personal things, like your sex life or your vagina. To be fair, your sex life is your own and you should never feel the need to talk about it with anyone else. But, on the other hand, you should never feel embarrassed or silly for doing things or talking about things that make you feel good. Yes, it is personal, but that doesn’t mean you have to be super confidential about your sex life (unless you want to, of course). LBR: most people have sex. It happens, and it’s time we stop being embarrassed about it.
When you think about it, it’s actually kind of unfair. For some reason, it’s totally cool for guys to talk about sex, but when girls do it, it’s “unladylike.” Pardon my language, but WTF? Girls are just as sexual as boys, and it’s time for us to stop feeling embarrassed about it. Girls can talk about what turns them on, how they masturbated the night before – they can brag about the new toy they bought, or how great they are in bed. If dudes can do it, so can we! Except, uh, easier said than done. To start doing that, take a look at these sex things that girls should stop feeling ashamed of, and start talking about it! If you want to, obviously. You shouldn’t feel forced to, we’re just putting it out there!
Buying ContraceptivesPSA: PRACTICE SAFE SEX. According to a recent study conducted by SuperDrug Online Doctor, almost 80 percent of women feel awkward, anxious or embarrassed when buying different types of birth control, including the pill and condoms. In fact, some girls will even leave the store without buying these products to avoid interacting with the cashier. I get it, it's embarrassing! But it's so important to be safe and protected when having sex, so even if you do feel hesitant to buy contraceptives, remember that it's for your own safety, and it's nobody else's business. Image Source: iStock
Buying Sex ToysJust like buying condoms and the pill, you should be able to buy sex toys without feeling ashamed or embarrassed. I know it's hard, but it's your life, and you should be able to buy a vibrator if you want to! Image Source: iStock
Kinks/ FetishesIf you're into weird stuff, that's cool...as long as it's not illegal. Let's say your fetish is feet. Good for you! I can't relate, because I hate feet, but more power to you for liking them. You should feel embarrassed about things you like, you should embrace it. Image Source: iStock
DischargeListen, weird liquids leaking out of your vagina happen. As long as it isn't some alarming color like gray or yellow, you shouldn't get upset when there is stuff coming out of you during sex, or at all. It's normal and you should never feel ashamed about your vagina doin' its thing! If, for some reason, your partner gets grossed out by that, be sure to give them a little biology lesson about why it's normal. Or dump them. Your call (JK). Image Source: iStock
Talking To Your Friends About SexTalking about sex is important. You might not want to talk to your parents or teachers about it, but you should feel free to talk to your friends about it (or us!). It's important to get informed and ask questions, as opposed to not knowing what you're doing and being confused or even contracting an STD. Image Source: iStock
Not Wanting To Have SexEven though it's okay to want to talk about sex, it's also okay to not want to talk about sex. If you're not ready, you're not ready! You shouldn't feel the need to have sex if everyone else it. You also shouldn't feel embarrassed if you haven't had sex yet. Everyone goes at their own pace, and you definitely don't want t do something you're not ready for. Image Source: iStock
Asking For What You WantSex is supposed to be enjoyable, so if you're not enjoying it, you need to tell your partner and should never feel bad for asking what you want. You shouldn't feel greedy or selfish for wanting to enjoy sex! Image Source: iStock
Going To The GynoI know that going to the gyno can be scary AF, but it's so important. You should be going as soon as you turn 18 or become sexually active in order to make sure everything is going smoothly down there. Don't avoid going to the gynecologist because you might be embarrassed. Vaginal health is really important! Image Source: iStock
Getting TestedNo, getting tested for an STD does not make you a "slut." It makes you responsible. If you are sexually active, you should be getting tested to make sure you haven't gotten anything weird going on down there. Image Source: iStock
What do you want to talk about more? Are you embarrassed to talk about sex? Tell us in the comments!