When you think of a red flag in a relationship, you immediately think of something bad that should either keep you from being with this person, or make you break up with them ASAP. Well, here’s the truth: all red flags are not created equally. Actually, there are a ton of relationship red flags out there that are really no big deal. But before we get into that, let’s talk about what a dating red flag actually is.
The term “red flag” basically refers to that gut feeling you get that something isn’t right. It’s that moment your bae says something off, and something inside you perks up to say, “DING DING DING! This person might be a jerk!” So, it’s a feeling – it’s not a fact. It’s not that your gut reaction is wrong, it’s just that some of the things that raise an alarm inside of your head can be worked through. On top of that, something that is a big deal to you might mean nothing to someone else. For example: a red flag for you might be that your boyfriend is a virgin and you’re experienced. For someone else, that might be a little thing they don’t care about. So, that said, it’s hard to say one red flag should be everyone’s red flag, you feel me?
Of course, there are some warnings everyone should watch out for – like if your BF threatens you but doesn’t actually hit you. We’re not talking about those, we’re talking about smaller red flags. It might feel weird to be calm about something that’s low-key giving you heart palpitations. It’s easier said than done, I admit that, but it’s not impossible. You don’t want to blow anything out of proportion if it isn’t the end of the world. For example, these are 10 relationship “red flags” that are actually no big deal, even if everyone tells you otherwise.
Do you think one of these red flags is actually a huge deal?Which one? What other red flags would you let slide? Let us know in the comments!
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