I recently heard about a couple who had sex every single day for a month and my first thought wasn’t “Good for them!” it was “Oh my god, even on her period?!” I think I’m alone in that shock – apparently, I’m late to the party and period sex is awesome. Period sex plays by it’s own rules, though, so it’s important you know a few things before you get into it. Basically, it’s like the sex you normally have, but with added natural lube! Plus, your period hormones could make you more horny than usual and turn you into someone who’s a lot more confident in bed. Who knows? All I’m saying is, don’t knock it until you try it. It doesn’t have to be penetrative or during your heaviest day, but if you’re on your period, don’t completely rule out sex entirely.
Of course, it goes without being said that you don’t have to have period sex if you don’t want to. If your partner thinks it’s “gross” and that periods are disgusting… but also wants you to give him a blow job? You can totally say no. They’re entitled to their opinion, and you’re entitled to hold off if they want to also! Besides, periods aren’t icky, they’re a natural bodily function. Sex is a natural part of a relationship with your partner, so why not combine the two? Take it slow and only do the things that you’re comfortable with (if you don’t want to receive oral sex when you’re bleeding down there, no one’s going to judge you for it) and remember to have fun. Period sex can be great if you know what you’re doing and are fully prepared. If you’re interested, here’s a heads up about what you’re about to get into. These are seven things you definitely need to know before you have period sex.
You Should Still Use A CondomYou might think one of the biggest benefits of period sex is that you can't get pregnant, but, I hate to break it to you, that's wrong. You actually shouldn't have unprotected sex on your period. While it's more unlikely that you'll get pregnant, there's still that possibility. Also, your cervix is more open than usual and so you're more likely to contract an STI. Your partner might also want to protect their urethra from holding on to your menstrual blood so they don't get an infection either. So, put that condom back on y'all.Source: iStock
Get A Grip, Because Period Sex Is SlipperyYou don't need lube for period sex because you're already lubed up (just try to forget that it's blood, okay?). Full warning, though: this is about to be the most slippery sex of your life. Perks include trying new positions that never worked before and feeling less inhibited. Cons include your partner falling out. If you want to really go for it, get a hold of something whether it's the bed or your partner so you can actually go for it instead of constantly adjusting and repositioning yourselves. Source: iStock
You Shouldn't Do It If You're SqueamishYou don't lose any more than two teaspoons of blood during the heaviest days of your period. But, if you're one of those people who gets lightheaded when they see blood, maybe steer clear. It won't be a blood bath, but there's going to be little spots of it everywhere: on the sheets, on your partner, on you, in places you wouldn't expect. The smell and taste might be too much if you have a sensitive stomach. If you aren't down for it, you don't have to be. You know your gross-out factor best, even though having period sex isn't inherently disgusting.Source: iStock
Get A Large Towel Or BlanketThe most common tip is to lay down a towel, which is fine if you're only having sex in missionary. What if you want to switch to something like doggy style? See what I mean? Towels can only get you so far. Maybe consider getting a large two-person beach towel or a whole other blanket so you aren't spending your whole time during sex worrying about staying on the towel and you can actually let go and enjoy yourself. It won't be a ton of blood, but unless you do your own laundry and are also an expert on getting blood stains out of sheets, the large towel/blanket method might be best.Source: iStock
Keep Your Tampon In (In Some Cases)If you aren't having penetrative sex, you can and probably should keep your tampon or menstrual cup in. However, if your menstrual cup is disposable, it's made of softer material, and you can still have penetrative sex with one still inside of you. For the rest of us, there's more than one way to have sex. If you don't want to get penetrated on your period, you can still have oral sex, anal, or now might be the perfect time to start using a sex toy with your partner. There's so many options and many different ways to have sex on your period that don't involve putting anything inside your vagina, if you don't want.Source: iStock
Do It In The Shower If You Don't Want To Wreck Your SheetsYou could keep a damp washcloth on hand to clean as you go or you and bae can just jump in the shower and kill two birds with one stone. Perfect time to try shower sex, right? No seeing blood, you can wash off right after, and you can pretend you're in one of those weird romantic comedy montages where the couple ALWAYS has shower sex. Bloody sheets anxiety doesn't always have to be a deal breaker - you have a perfectly good shower! Source: iStock
The Benefits Of Period Sex Only Count If You OrgasmThere are so many perks to period sex: it alleviates cramps, shortens your period in general, and reduces those awful period headaches we get. Here's the catch though: those benefits only come into play if you reach orgasm. The way your muscles contract when you orgasm moves the blood out of your uterus, the hormones released when you come relieve your headaches, and and the relaxation that comes with having your pelvic muscles release make the cramps less severe. Sex might reduce these symptoms temporarily, but to get the full bang-for-your-buck (I had to), you should probably have an orgasm. So, if bae isn't cutting it, get your vibrator on standby.Source: iStock
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