I do not have the exact numbers at the moment, but I feel reasonably comfortable assuming that many people on this earth have, at one point or another, dedicated at least some time towards trying to make their sex life better. Now, “better” is, of course, a relative term. It could mean having eight orgasms per lovemaking session instead of just the one. It could mean trying to stop saying “lovemaking” when the terms “hooking up” or, simply, “sex” would work just fine. It could also mean just, you know, having some sex instead of no sex.
Anyway, the point here is that there are many ways to improve one’s sex life, and I cannot tell you what the word “better” should mean to you. What I can tell you, however, is that there is some good news if you happen to be one of those people who would like a better sex life– there are a number of studies on sex, and its betterment, that have been done. which are basic enough that pretty much anyone can do it.
So, check out these things that, according to some scientific studies, are proven to make having sex better for you:
Body PositivityFeeling good about yourself can also help you feel good during sex, apparently. According to a study done at Texas Christian University in 2013, overweight women who accept their bodies have satisfying sex lives. On the flip side, women who feel shame about their bodies tend to experience lackluster sex. Now, obviously, body positivity takes more than just deciding to be happy with your body--usually, it takes an extended period of serious effort to reverse the effects of cultural body-shaming that becomes internalized by many people--but it makes sense if you think about it. If you're only focused on your own body, how it looks, and what your partner thinks about it during sex, chances are good that you'll be too distracted to actually enjoy having sex. So, if you can, try to focus less on your body and more on how you're feeling during sex. (And definitely don't sleep with anyone who makes you feel weird about your body.) It might take some practice, but it should make you feel better in the long run. Image source: iStock
Good CommunicationThis shouldn't be all that surprising, but it's important to note anyway. According to a study done in 2012, good communication is key to having a healthy, satisfying sex life. This is because empathetic people tend to be more receptive and adaptable towards their partner's needs, and communication helps to encourage a positive cycle of empathy. So, if you're really feeling good about something--or not feeling so good about something--in the bedroom, let your partner know. Either way, it'll help to improve your sex life. Image source: iStock
Open RelationshipsWell, kind of. People in open and polyamorous relationships tend to have better sex than traditional two-person relationships, but there's a catch--it has to be a healthy relationship with lots of communication. This is because healthy open relationships tend to have better communication between the partners involved, and this, in turn, leads to better sex. So, don't rush into an open relationship because you think it'll make your sex life better--chances are good that it won't if it's a rash decision--but if you were already thinking of doing an open thing, you know that a better sex life is a potential benefit. Image source: iStock
MeditatingThere are a lot of good reasons to meditate--the practice increases relaxation, concentration, and happiness. Another benefit? Apparently, it can also improve your sex life, since meditation can also help improve energy (which is important for sex) and the ability to stay present (also important for sex). Image source: iStock
Being Exposed To SunlightOr, at the risk of being heteronormative, perhaps I should say getting more of the D. Vitamin D, to be exact--according to a study published in the scientific journal Clinical Endocrinology, vitamin D can increase libido. Don't, like, lay out in the sun all the time--sunburn definitely won't increase your libido--but if you happen to get a little bit of a tan, know that it might help things in the bedroom. Image source: iStock
Having Sex In The AfternoonAccording to a hormone specialist, the afternoon is the best time to have sex. Or, more specifically, 3 PM, since this is the time when you're most likely to be aware of your partner's hormones (and them to yours). Obviously, having sex in the afternoon is challenging if you have school, or work, or have parents who want to know what you're doing every hour of the day, even the one that, statistically, is best for doin' it. But if you and your partner just so happen to be free at 3 PM, and no one else is home, hooking up might not be the worst thing you could do. Image source: iStock
Not Having Sex Aaaalllll The TimeAccording to a study done at University Of Toronto last year, the happiest couples don't have sex every day. Instead, the prime amount of sex to have, apparently, is once a week. Of course, if you want to have sex with bae every day, go for it--every couple is different--but don't feel pressured to get it on as much as you might think you have to for satisfying sex. Image source: iStock
Were you surprised by any of these things? Which ones? Let us know in the comments!