If you watch enough romantic AA-rated movies, you will get an idea that sex is literally mind-blowing every single time. Unfortunately, that is not reality. That’s all part of the movie magic. IRL, sex can be weird, uncomfortable, bizarre, and downright bad.
While I am never going to willingly wish bad sex on anyone, I will say that it is an important learning experience. Yeah, it’s not something you want to get into the habit of learning, but if you figure out what you like and definitely don’t like from a not-so-hot experience, you will hopefully be able to relay that to your partner so you can have better sex in the future.
Sound better? If you’ve had some bad sex, don’t be upset. These are the 15 important things you learn from the experience.
1. How to communicate with bae.
Is the sex bad because bae just doesn’t seem to get what you want? Good communication plays a key role in good sex and it is something that can take awhile to master.
2. How honesty is important.
Did you smile and fake moan your way through your first bad sex experience? Chances are you won’t be doing that again.
3. How to take feedback.
If you’re not feeling it, bae might not be feeling it, either. If bae makes some requests or offers tips, you’ll be better prepared for them in the future.
4. It’s not always about the finish.
It’s also about the beginning and middle. And those should hopefully be as good as the *big* ending.
5. People have different ideas about what they like in the bedroom.
What you might think is bad or weird, bae might totally be into.
6. Speed is key.
Sex can be too fast and too slow, but you want it to be just right. And you and bae have to be on the same page of where *just right* is.
7. What you really like.
You might have to do something that turns out to be bad or weird for you to know what you do like.
8. …And what you never want to do again.
You’ve done it and now you know that it’s not for you so you can move on.
9. It takes two of you.
One person cannot possibly do all of the work…
10. Some positions just don’t work IRL.
Let’s save the contorted poses for the circus shall we.
11. Giving up isn’t an option.
One (or two or three or four) bad experiences cannot put you off sex for good.
12. It’s not just about putting the P in the V.
There are so many different hot and steamy acts.
13. You have to adjust to each other’s sizes.
Would it work better if you’re on top or bae? Do you have enough strength in your arms to do that? Will bae’s head bash you if you try that position?
14. Practice makes perfect.
It’s like with everything, you have to adjust to the new situation and figure out what works best.
15. Lying there motionless doesn’t benefit anyone.
Movement is key for all parties.
What did you learn from bad sex? Let us know in the comments!
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