As we power through this cold and dreary month of February, we are finally past that annoying holiday dedicated to love (I’m not even going to name it, but you know exactly what I’m talking about), and are heading towards the warm embrace of spring. I know that winter, AKA cuffing season, is the worst, since you have to see all of the lovey couples PDAing all over your life and posting #RELATIONSHIPGOALS posts on Insta every day. It’s okay to be bitter about being single. But, before you go running around looking for a BF to claim, I just want to let you know that it’s totally fine if you aren’t in a relationship. In fact, it’s actually better to be single than to be in a relationship, according to science. I know this sounds like something lame you’ve heard a million times, but it’s not. Hear me out!
I’ve read a lot of studies out there that have come to the conclusion that being on your own can be better than being with a bae (and, full disclosure, even though a lot of these studies are done on single vs married people, they probably still apply to you). If you’re single, odds are good that you are living your life to the fullest, even if you don’t realize it. You probably have more friends if you are single, since you can focus more on building strong and healthy relationships with your buddies than working on a romantic one with someone else. That means you have better relationships with your BFFs then you would ever have while having a BF. You might even be more popular if you’re single!
Studies also show that you might even be healthier if you are single, since people who aren’t in a relationship have more time to dedicate to their physical health. That’s right, you are fit AF and don’t need a significant other to validate you! You go girl. But the single perks don’t stop there: you’re also saving your money wisely. That’s right, you don’t have to waste money on silly birthday or Valentine’s Day gifts when you are single, so you get to save money… or spend it on yourself. Either way, it’s better than wasting it on some chocolate you can’t even eat. Also, women who don’t have a BF/GF also tend to look out for other women more. That’s true feminism, TBH.
(Sure, this one is talking about married women, but you get what I mean)
Single girls are also less stressed than girls who have baes, which just proves that relationships can be stressful AF for everybody involved. Kidding, sort of. When you’re not in a relationship, you get to set your own rules and boundaries for how you want to live your life, which means you get to work to make yourself comfortable, without having to worry about somebody else.
If you’re flying solo, you are also more likely to feel more fulfilled in your life. This study states that one can’t be truly happy if they are relying too much on others. So, single people feel more fulfilled because they are generally more independent and self-sufficient, because they can take care of themselves. It does really make sense! I know you probably think that every single person is sad and desperate for a relationship, but that’s not always the case.
I don’t want to say that you can’t be happy or healthy if you’re in a relationship, because of course you can. This isn’t a war where we’re pitting one thing against the other. I’m just letting you know that if you’re single right now, it’s okay. You can take this time to be on your own and take care of yourself. It’s really important to learn to “date yourself” before dating somebody else. I know it’s cheesy AF, but it is true that you need to love yourself before anyone else! Okay, my preaching is over. Go out and live your life, girl.
Are you single? Do you agree with these studies? Tell us in the comments!