7 Genius Things To Do If You Can’t Have An Orgasm

Perhaps the most frustrating thing about sex, other than somebody walking in, is not being able to orgasm. It feels a little anti-climactic when you spend all this time building up to it and then it just…doesn’t happen. It’s super frustrating and pretty discouraging when everybody talks about how great having an orgasm is,  but you can’t have one. If this is happening to you, just know that you’re not alone!

Recently, user payton12219 came to our boards with a problem. She wrote, “My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now. I’ve never reached orgasm before him (on my own) and he fingers me regularly, but I still can’t reach it with him. It confuses him, and it frustrates me. A lot of forums online say girls are more focused on reaching orgasm than enjoying the feeling, and once you get your mind off of it then it’s really easy! I still haven’t been able to reach it. I’m scared when we have sex soon/eventually, I won’t reach it then either and I will be disappointed. Any advice?”

First of all, this is really common and not anything to stress about. That being said, it’s okay if you are stressing, since it can be a super annoying situation. Obviously, you’re the only one who really knows your body well enough to figure out what’s going on, but here are some tips that might help you have an orgasm next time you and bae are fooling around. Check out what our girls said, and remember to relax!


Are you going to try any of these orgasm tips? Tell us in the comments!

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