7 Ways To Reject A Kiss Without Hurting Someone

I recently wrote about how to recover (as gracefully as possible) after you’re rejected for a kiss. It’s something that still makes me cringe just typing the words because I know how hard it can be when you go in for the big smooch and your crush just isn’t feeling things. It happens.

On the flip side, there will probably be times when you’re the one about to get kissed by someone whose lips you would rather not have near your face. While you might think this situation is easier, it still has its own challenges. If you’ve been rejected, you know how much it stings. However, you also know that it’s not cool to lead someone on because you don’t want to hurt their feelings.

If you find yourself in a situation where someone is going in for a kiss, but you would rather they kept their lips to themselves, check out the seven ways you can reject a kiss without totally offending someone.

Don't Pity The Kisser

While you might feel bad that you've had to reject someone, you don't need to take things to an extreme. Sometimes you don't even need to say sorry. Avoid apologizing profusely about how you wish you had those feelings, but you don't. Basically, what you're doing is just twisting the rejection dagger in more.

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Avoid Overreacting

Yeah, you're probably hella surprised right now, but that doesn't give you a green card to go wild. Try to keep your emotions in check. There's no need to have a *OMG! WHAT THE HECK DID YOU DO THAT FOR? ARE YOU CRAZY?!* reaction. No, you're not allowed to do that even if you think things really are that crazy.

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Build On The Head Turn

If someone has swooped in for the kiss and it's too late to back away, the head turn can work. However, isn't not enough. When you reject a kiss, the person usually deserves some sort of explanation, so, be prepared to give them one.

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Focus On Other Parts Of Your Relationship

If you and the kisser already have a good relationship, bring up the great points that you love about your relationship in your post-kiss discussion. Just make sure that you're emphasizing these points because they're things you like about the person as a friend, not as a crush or a potential bae. Knowing that they didn't completely ruin your relationship will make them feel better.

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Be Direct, But Not Rude

There is a fine line between being direct and being rude, and it can be tricky to get the balance right. You want to make it clear that you do not have these same feelings and that you're not ready to kiss, but you also don't want to come off sounding rude or unsympathetic. 

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Avoid Grabbing The Other Person's Face

First, any face touching might be confused as a sign that you're into this whole kissing thing. Secondly, if you try and push someone's face away, that action will probably sting more than anything you say. Instead, try and create distance between you and the kisser without brushing him/her away.

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Don't Laugh It Off

Laughing at any romantic gesture is usually a recipe for disaster. It doesn't matter how well you know the person. Being rejected for a kiss hurts, but it hurts twice as bad when someone rejects you and finds the romantic idea of the two of you hilarious.

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Have you had to reject someone? Let us know in the comments!

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