I know that it’s the time of year for ~love~, but that doesn’t mean you need to jump to the first guy or girl you see and confess your love to them. You might have a super crush on someone right now, and that’s totally not a bad thing! You might be wondering if it’s really time to tell them you like them, but, I hate to tell you that it might not be. But before you start freaking out, just hear me out. There are a lot of factors that go into telling your crush you have butterflies for them, and you need to take all of these factors into account before confessing your crush.
I totally don’t want to discourage you from telling your crush you like them, because telling people how you feel can be super important! BUT, there are some circumstances where you should hold off on admitting your feelings for a bit (or forever, TBH). You could do the Ariana Grande route and just write a song about it, but realistically, nobody can sing as good as she can. It can be very tricky to decide when it’s really time to tell your crush you like them, but here are some signs that you really shouldn’t be telling your crush that you are daydreaming about them on the regular. So if you’re questioning if you should tell that boy/girl that you are into them, check out these reasons why you shouldn’t tell your crush you like them, at least not at this very moment.
You Just Want A BaeMaybe you want a bae to give you a cute Valentine's Day card, or you're trying to lock in a date for the prom this spring. None of these are good enough reasons to get into a relationship right now. I know it might be super trendy to be in a relationships (it is "cuffing season," after all) but if you don't actually have any serious feelings for this crush, don't let them know. Image Source: Skins
You're Not Sure Of Their FeelingsIf you and your crush spend some days texting nonstop, but other days they ignore you, they might not be sure of their feelings, which means they are confused and don't know if they have a crush on you. That's okay, but you might want to hold off on telling them how you feel. Odds are good that they are trying to figure out if they really like you, and if you tell them you have a crush on them, it can put pressure on them. People need time to figure these things out! Obviously, you might not ever be able to tell if they have feelings for you, but it doesn't hurt to wait until it becomes a little more obvious. Image Source: Riverdale
You're Not Sure Of YOUR FeelingsDo you ACTUALLY like this person? Do you even want to date anyone? Or do you just like hanging and talking with them? You have to decide if this is a real crush, or just a platonic friendship that isn't going anywhere romantic. Both of these are fine, you just need to decide! Image Source: Gossip Girl
You're Not Ready To DateIt's 100 percent okay to not be ready to be in a relationship. Relationships can be scary and weird and if you don't feel like you are ready enough to be in one, don't tell your crush you like them! It's okay to have a crush for a while, and not act on it. Then, after time goes by, and you realize you are ready to be with someone, then you should go for it and let them know you like them. Image Source: Sex And The City
They Just Got Out Of A RelationshipBreakups are hard, and if your crush just went through one, they probably aren't ready to hear that you are into them. Even if you don't expect to date them right away, it can make things weird and stressful for them, especially if they are going through a tough time. If your crush just broke up with their bae, give them some time to figure stuff out before your profess your love. Image Source: Pretty Little Liars
Or They Are Still In A RelationshipOkay, if we're being honest, you can't help who you have a crush on, and sometimes they have a girlfriend/boyfriend. You don't want to cause drama in their relationship, so it is a good idea to keep your crush quiet, at least until you figure out if they will be staying together for a while. If they don't seem to be breaking up any time soon, you might want to try and move on. Image Source: The OC
You Just Got Out Of A RelationshipYou need time to heal before getting into a new relationship. If you think you have a crush on someone, that's okay, but you might not actually be ready to date them. You don't want to make your crush be a rebound, so you should make sure you are really over your relationship before telling your crush you like them. Image Source: One Tree Hill
They Just Need A FriendYou might feel a connection with someone, but sometimes, they just need a friend. Whether they are going through a hard time or just need someone to talk to, you shouldn't add any extra pressure on them. Sometimes, you need to be a friend before you can be a love interest. It happens! Image Source: New Girl
You've Told Them About Your Crush BeforeThis one kind of sucks, but it's true. If you've told your crush you like them before, telling them again could just make things awkward. I'm not saying they won't like you, but they might not be ready to be with you yet, and telling them you have feelings for them might just make things messy. You need to give them time, especially if you've told them before. That being said, if you have told them and they have expressed interest in you in the past, but said they weren't ready, that's okay! You can't rush these things. Image Source: Teen Wolf
Have you ever told someone you have a crush on them? How did it go? Tell us in the comments!