I know that when you have a crush on somebody, the first thing you want to do is: one, kiss them; and two, tell them every single detail about your life so that you can bond over your similar interests and make out all the time. That was a slight exaggeration, but you get the point, right? Having a crush can be awesome (or terrible, but that’s a conversation for a different day) because you get to share stories and things about your life with someone new and that can be pretty freakin’ cool, IMO. But, even though you want to tell this new person everything, it might not be the best idea.
Sure, there are topics that are safe, like your favorite band or memes you like (important), but there are also some topics that need to be off limits. I’m not saying that you need to be married in order to talk to your crush about some of these things, but there is such a thing as oversharing, especially in the early stages of a relationship. As much as you might feel comfortable talking with your crush, you shouldn’t treat them the same way you would treat your BFF, because you might “scare” them away. If you’re not sure what I mean, it’s okay. Just take a look at some things you might want to keep to yourself when talking to your crush, at least at the beginning of the relationship. PS: once you progress to ~bae status~ you can talk about these things!
Who You Think Is HotYES, everybody on earth thinks that Liam Hemsworth is the most attractive man alive, but that might not be the first thing you want to bring up with your crush. I know it seems silly, but it can actually make them feel super self-conscious about themselves. Same goes with your friends IRL. If you think that your crush's friend is hot, please, don't tell them. That's just messy. Image Source: 10 Things I Hate About You
Your AllowanceIt's silly to bring up how much money you have. It's just not necessary and a little braggy. I know you might want your crush to think you're loaded so you can buy them the most perfect Valentine's Day gifts, but...don't. Image Source: Two Broke Girls
Any Sexual Fetishes You Might HaveDisclaimer: there is nothing wrong with fetishes, and if you are into kinky sex stuff, that's cool. But, not everyone will be as open about their sexuality, and even if you want to mention it, you should wait until you feel super comfortable around your crush to talk about that stuff. It's totally fine to discuss later on in your relationship though, if you do end up getting together. Image Source: Broad City
Friend DramaSure, you can talk about the latest celeb gossip (if they're into that) but talking badly about your friends or people at school is not something you and your crush should bond over. As much as I LOVE drama, I don't bring it up to everyone all the time, and you shouldn't either! Image Source: Degrassi
Your ExThis is tricky, because sometimes you might want to bring up your ex in casual conversation. And sometimes, it makes sense. But if you're always talking about your ex, whether it be how awful they were, or the things they did, it will give off the impression that you're not actually over that relationship, which might make your crush feel like they can't be with you. Obviously, if it comes up you don't have to lie, but try not to actively talk about your past relationships. Image Source: The OC
Their Annoying FriendsTheir friends MIGHT be annoying, but you don't need to bring that up. It can make you seem super judgemental, and they might feel like you are judging them by hanging out with their group of friends, which is not a good thing. Image Source: Gossip Girl
Your Birth ControlYour body is your business. If your crush asks you about what type of birth control you use, you don't have to answer. Unless, of course, you are having sex with your crush, then you totally should discuss birth control methods. But if they casually ask "so...are you on the pill?" it could be a sign that they are trying to hook up and not have an actual relationship with you. Also, it's just kind of creepy. Image Source: Skins
How Much You Hate Being SingleIf you're always saying things like "I wish I had a boyfriend!" or "I hate being single!" it could give the impression that you're just trying to date your crush because you're afraid of being alone. I mean, maybe you are! But that's not something to bring up with someone you're trying to date. It can make them feel really insecure about your relationship. Image Source: Don't Trust The B In Apartment 23
Nothing At AllI hope I didn't discourage you from talking to your crush, because the only thing worse than talking about these topics is not talking at all. You want to get to know your crush and do so in a ~casual~ manner, especially at first. Coming on too strong can suck and really ruin your chances of ending up with your crush, but being too reserved (AKA not talking) might make you seem not interested. You should feel free to talk about your life and yourself, just be sure to be aware of the things you are saying. Image Source: Pretty Little Liars
Only YourselfYou want to have an open conversation with your crush, not just a one-sided "THIS IS MY LIFE STORY" conversation. You should be sure to engage and ask questions, along with talking about your life and yourself. You don't want to seem too invested in yourself, even though you are awesome. Image Source: Mean Girls
What things are you enver going to talk about with your crush? Tell us in the comments!