If you’re someone who has only had boyfriends or dude hookup partners before, and you’ve just figured out you like girls, then I have something to tell you: dating girls is going to be different, and maybe even a little overwhelming. Our culture comes stocked with fill-in-the-blank scripts for what’s supposed to happen when it comes to girls dating guys, but what about girls dating girls? There’s not much out there, and there are some things you should definitely do before you jump off the deep end. Yes, it’s intuitive and not rocket science, but neither is riding a bike, and we all fell a bunch of times when we were learning, right? Regardless of how you identify, whether it be as a lesbian, bisexual, or just curious, consider this a heads up.
Dating should be fun, whether you’re a chick dating another chick or a girl dating a guy. And it probably will be, eventually, but you won’t truly feel comfortable until you have a better idea of what you’re supposed to be doing. There are a lot of questions left unanswered. If you go on a date with another girl, who is supposed to pay? Is one of you supposed to identify as the “pants” in the relationship? Who makes the first move? What if people think you’re just friends? AHH! If you’re having a little anxiety about the idea of dating girls, but you also want to do it, then this little checklist will help you out. Here are a few things you have to do before you start dating girls:
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