Let’s be real for a minute: being a teenager can be hard. I mean, obviously, right? You are growing up and going to school, and meanwhile your body is going through weird AF changes that can make you feel happy one minute and angry the next. Those wonderful mood changers are called “hormones,” which can make it hard to control how you feel about things. It can be even harder when you’re trying to figure out if you’re a lesbian, bisexual, or straight. It’s totally normal to feel a little unsure about your sexuality, and it’s also normal to change your mind about it. That doesn’t make your thoughts or feelings any less valid! You are allowed to be attracted to whoever you want, but I get that it is super frustrating and confusing when you’re not really sure who you want.
Here is one good thing to know: you’re definitely not alone if you’re unsure if you’re bisexual, a lesbian, or straight. If you’re not sure what ANY of those mean, don’t worry, here is a quick rundown. If you’re straight, that means you’re attracted to the opposite sex. If you’re attracted to both men and women, you might be bisexual. If you’re only attracted to women, then you might be a lesbian. If you’re still not sure, it’s okay. Recently, a user came to our boards wondering about her sexuality. XslutSophx said, “I classify myself as straight, but the last couple of weeks I’ve been having sexual feelings for girls. I don’t know if I’m bisexual or straight?” It’s a pretty reasonable question with a lot of answers. Luckily, our girls are here to help! Check out what some of our users said to this girl who was questioning if she is a lesbian, straight or bisexual:
Decide If Your Attraction Is Sexual Or Romanticanesthetising said, "Sexuality is a spectrum and no two people are exactly the same. That being said, it's also verrryyyyyy confusing. Something that isn't really touched upon is the difference between sexual and romantic attraction. Sexual attraction is what it sounds like - the genders you are sexually attracted to and would, you know, have sex with. Romantic attraction, however, is different. It's basically the attraction involved with wanting to be in a romantic relationship with people of a certain gender (dating, kissing, etc.). The point is that you should only label yourself as what you feel comfortable as. Sometimes your feelings can even seem to change, so don't feel obligated to figure this out right now. Do some research on different orientations and seek advice, but more importantly, just be yourself." This is actually pretty important. You might be sexually attracted to girls, but romantically attracted to guys. It takes time to figure out and, again, you don't have to decide ASAP who you want to be with. It's important to just be aware and conscious of your feelings. Image Source: iStock
It's Okay To Be CuriousSammyB_16 said, "It's normal for teenagers to just be curious and not put a label on it. Can you see yourself in a relationship with another girl? You could be bi if you're still interested in guys. I can't ever see myself with a guy and have no attraction to them so I classify as a lesbian." She's right! It's totally normal to be curious about girls, but still want a relationship with guy. Don't worry. Image Source: iStock
You Are Allowed To Change Your MindNATUREGIRL said, "I classified myself as bisexual for a few years although I had no interest in boys, and I have NO interest in boys, so now I classify myself as a lesbian. I don't think you should classify yourself as lesbian until you're sure you do not want relationships with boys, you would de curious or bisexual depending on what way you go, you said you already had sexual relationships with boys, but only sexual feelings for girls, So at the moment I would say you are curious." You're allowed to change your mind, and it's totally okay. One day you might wake up wanting to date a guy, and the next day you might want to makeout with a girl. You are totally allowed to switch what you want and don't let anyone tell you you can't! Image Source: iStock
You Might Not Be Either!graciesmiles said, "I used to think I was bi but now I think I am probably lesbian. Everyone is different I guess. I think categories are tough." Like she says, categories are tough, and you don't have to choose one. You shouldn't feel pressured to decide what your sexuality is. Image Source: iStock
You Don't Need To Know Just YetMya_C said, "I've been very curious about my sexuality as well. I like boys, but sometimes attracted to females. I don't know if it's hormones or what, but maybe i am bi-sexual. Hmmm, still have time to figure it out." You have your whole life to figure your sexuality out, and there is no rush to know it ASAP. Image Source: iStock
It's Nobody's BusinessSheWearsFlowers said, " I'd definitely like to try being with a girl and sleeping with a girl and I have had crushes on some before, but I can't see myself ultimately marrying one, so I feel like I can't say that I'm bi. But as I've gotten older, I feel like it doesn't matter what you call it. I'll sleep with who I'm attracted to and I'll marry who I love the most. It's nobody else's business but mine." True!!! You can decide, but you don't need to let anyone know. Your sexuality is your own business, and nobody needs to know except you. Image Source: iStock
As Long As You're Comfortable, It Doesn't MatterRaven21 said, "It is perfectly normal to want to experiment new things just make sure that you are comfortable and trust the person you want to experiment with. Good Luck." Again, labels don't really matter. If you are uncomfortable in a heterosexual relationship, maybe you can switch it up and try a relationship with someone of the same gender as you. You should be with whoever makes you comfortable, regardless of gender! Image Source: iStock
What did you think about what these girls said about being bisexual? Tell us in the comments!