Let’s get real for a second: when people don’t like you, it can really suck. I know you want to be all “I don’t care what people think,” but you probably do. It’s natural to want people to like you! You don’t want to go through life feeling hated and alone. When I was in high school, I was suuuuper paranoid that people didn’t like me. Now that I think about it, I was probably just overreacting, but I also ended up pushing people away because I thought they didn’t want to be my friend. It’s really common to think like this. You want to make a good impression, but you don’t want to be too annoying, but you also want to be funny and engaging, without being too over-the-top. It’s HARD. But it doesn’t have to be! Luckily, science is on our side when it comes to this stuff.
There are scientific reasons for everything these days. Did you know there was a scientific reason why you might be a hipster? Certain behaviors can really affect how you are perceived by others. This means that there are some foolproof ways to get someone to like you, according to scientists who literally study this stuff. I don’t know if you knew this, but there are people whose job it is to actually be able to figure out personalities, and they recently mapped out the easiest ways to get others to want to be around you. Don’t take this stuff too seriously, but if you want more friends, these ways to get people to like you just might work:
ACTUALLY SmileSmiling when you’re talking to someone sounds obvious, but I have to mention it because it’s more important than you think. Genuinely smiling when talking to someone doesn’t just make you seem friendly, it also helps the other person relax, which helps them put their guard down and feel more comfortable around you. When they feel comfortable, you're more likely to make a more personal connection, which will help build a strong friendship. Image Source: iStock
Keep Your Palms UpAn important thing to consider is body language. Hands can say a lot about a person, and if your palms are facing up, it can actually show that you are kind and open. It suggests that you are harmless and non-aggressive, which is good, since nobody wants to befriend someone who constantly has their hands in a fist, right? This technique actually comes from apes, who show kindness and peace with their hands. Image Source: iStock
Keep Your Chin DownYou don't want to seem ~snooty~ when you're talking to your new friend. When your chin is angled up, it can give the impression that you're "looking down" on someone, which could make you seem like you think you are better than them. I know it's not intentional, but your body language can really affect how people view you! Keep your chin angled downwards in order to show you're interested in what they have to say. Image Source: iStock
Keep Your Eyebrows RaisedWhen you're interested in something, you involuntarily raise your eyebrows, which signals that you're intently listening to someone, and people love others who actually listen and engage in conversation with them. Try raising your eyebrows when you listen to a friend talk, it will make them feel more comfortable and willing to share with you, and they will totally like you for that! Don't raise them too much, or else you'll look surprised AF. Image Source: iStock
Don't Purse Your LipsAgain, body language is key. When you purse your lips, it looks like you are frustrated or stressed, which won't make people want to talk to you, TBH. Try to keep your face relaxed and calm, so that people are more likely to want to get to know you and hang out with you. Image Source: iStock
Seek Other's OpinionsThis makes sense! You don't want to have a one-sided conversation with someone. People like when you ask about their opinion, since it shows you are engaging with them and actually care about what they have to say. You might feel "weak" for asking others for their opinion or help, but it can really help you connect with a person! Image Source: iStock
Don't JudgeObviously, you shouldn't judge anyone. They won't be able to open up to you if they can feel you criticizing them, and that can put some distance between you two. Even if someone is a little different than you, it's important to make them feel comfortable and not judge them for something, like the clothes they wear or a certain hairstyle they have. Image Source: iStock
Hold Back SometimesThis goes along with not judging someone. You know that old saying, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all?" It's actually backed by these behavioral analysts. If your new friend is saying something, uh, a little weird, don't jump to say, "WTF are you talking about?" Instead, get them to know you are interested by saying "can you tell me more about what you mean?" This way, it shows you want to know more about their life, without judging them. Image Source: iStock
Ask How They Are DoingPeople love talking about themselves, even more than they love talking about food or money. It makes sense, since you are the thing you know more about! A good way to get people on your good side is to ask about them. FBI agent Robin Dreeke says, "Talking about ourselves—whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money." So, it actually makes people happy when you ask about them, which will make them happy to see and talk to you. Image Source: iStock
Are you going to try any of these tips to get people to like you? Tell us in the comments!