Okay, it’s finally the new year. It’s time to rid yourself of all of the negative aspects of 2016, right? It was bad, but we are starting 2017 off on the right foot, so I have high hopes. With a new year comes a ton of new opportunities to start fresh. And sometimes, starting fresh means ending the relationships with the bad people in your life. I don’t just mean ending a romantic relationship, I mean ending a toxic or unhealthy friendship, or just one that has simply run its course. It’s never easy to tell if your friendship is over, and it definitely isn’t easy to get out of it either, especially if you and your BFF have known each other for years. In fact, it’s sometimes easier to break up with a significant other than it is to tell someone you don’t want to be friends anymore.
Before you end your friendship with someone you believe is treating you poorly, let’s look at what is making you want to end your friendship in the first place. Maybe your BFF makes jokes about you that actually hurt your feelings, or they are a little too critical of you. Maybe you’ve told your friend that their actions bother you, but they haven’t made the effort to change. Maybe they control you a little too much, or they don’t care at all about your feelings and emotions. Maybe you and your friend have just grown apart too much, and it’s weird and awkward when you hang out.
It’s important to get out of these relationships before you are too emotionally drained or scarred. Let me tell you this: it’s not easy to get out of long-term friendship, which is why I’m going to give you some simple tips to help you out. You should never have to spend time with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself, or who doesn’t make you happy anymore. Are you ready to move on from your BFF? Take a look at these tips that will help you end a friendship.
Do It Over TimeEssentially, this method is like Ghosting: Friendship Edition. You don't have to abruptly end your friendship with your BFF, but begin to cut down the time you spend with them. If you notice that you start to feel better when you spend less time with them, it means that you really are ready to end the friendship. You don’t need to ignore them completely, but don’t ask them to hang out, don’t reach out to them, and keep conversations short. Eventually, they’ll probably start to get the hint. If they don't make an effort to hang out either, it means they are also ready for the friendship to end. It happens! Gossip Girl
Only Hang In GroupsWhile you're beginning to distance yourself, it's a good idea to hang in groups with the friend you are "ghosting." This way, you aren't cutting them out of your life cold turkey, but it will take pressure off of you so you don't have to hang one-on-one. When you have all of your friends around, it's a lot easier to handle any uncomfortable situations. Mean Girls
Be HonestBeing honest is tough, but sometimes it’s necessary. If you’re ending the friendship because this person has done something wrong, tell them. Let them know that they really hurt you, and you don’t want to continue being friends. It’s not easy, but it’s most straight forward way to do things. However, I wouldn’t suggest going this route if you’re simply sick of being friends with them. Telling someone you no longer want to be their friend because they’re boring is mean. Glee
Be MatureOdds are good that you'll run into your former BFF at school or around town. Don't be mean about it. It's okay to give them a quick "hello" or a wave. You don't have to have a full-blown convo with them, but it's important that you be civil and respectful after you end your friendship. Sometimes, they won't want to reciprocate the maturity, but that's understandable. The OC
Tell Your Other FriendsIf you are in a big friend group, your other friends might start to wonder why you and so-and-so stopped hanging. It's important to tell your other friends the deal so that things don't get too awkward. Pretty Little Liars
Find A New HobbyHonestly, it can be exhausting to be in a bad friendship. It can get confusing and frustrating, especially if you're in the midst of ending said friendship. So, it's important to do a little self care after you end your friendship. Find a new hobby to keep your mind occupied. Odds are you will want to text your ex-BFF one day and want to hang, but you should resist the urge, especially if they treated you badly. Try distracting yourself by learning how to do some cool DIY projects. You need to be able to spend time with yourself before you spend time with anyone else. One Tree Hill
Make New FriendsJust because you're losing one friend doesn't mean you need to be completely friendless. Branch out and try meeting new people who share the same interests as you! I know it can be hard to make friends, but believe it or not, there will be people out there who will actually be excited to get to know you. Degrassi
Don't Feel GuiltyListen, friendships fade. People grow apart. Friends stop treating each other well, and it totally sucks, but it happens. Just because you and your BFF have been inseparable since first grade, it doesn't mean you have to stick together for the rest of your life. The Vampire Diaries
Are you going to use any of these friendship tips? Tell us in the comments!