It’s the end of the year, aka the time when everybody is making resolutions. You probably have some resolutions about being more of a badass in 2017 and some others about school and self-care, but have you made any about your relationship?
We love to stick a #RelationshipGoals caption on almost anything, but when it comes to actually making relationship goals, we tend to slack. On the other hand, we usually have a ton of goals for when we’re single ladies. It’s time to change that.
I know that making relationship resolutions sounds a bit cheesy, but is there anything wrong with it if you and bae end up with a better relationship because of them? I don’t think so. The key with your relationship resolutions is to choose things that are about furthering your connection as opposed to things that will simply up the number of likes you get on your cute couple Instagram posts. These are the things you need to do for your relationship in 2017.
Be Fully CommittedIt might seem obvious, but I'm going to say it anyways. If you're not 100 percent committed to this relationship, you need to ask yourself why you're in it and why you're wasting yours and bae's time. If you are willing to fully commit, then show it. Your relationship will only benefit from it. Image source: iStock
Try To See Each Other In Person MoreFacetiming and Snapchat are great, but there is nothing like seeing your S.O. in the flesh. I know it can be a challenge because of busy schedules or if you're doing the long distance thing, but try to meet up whenever you can because it will make such a difference. Image source: iStock
Stop Putting Pressure On YourselvesAre you concerned that it has been a couple of months and you haven't accomplished certain things in your relationship? You need to stop. There is no definitive relationship timeline of when you need to accomplish certain things. Every relationship is unique. In 2017, try to focus on just being in your relationship as opposed to being concerned about hitting certain milestones by a certain day. Image source: iStock
Learn To Respect Each Other's SpaceYeah, this one might seem a little weird at first, but hear me out: It's great that you and bae want to spend all of the time together, but it's important that you both have your own lives, too. It's also important that you respect each other's space so one person doesn't end up feeling like they're being suffocated. Image source: iStock
Try Limiting Technology When You're Around Each OutTechnology can be amazing when you and bae are apart, but it can get in the way when you are spending time together. Just think about the number of times that you and bae have spent together and you've both been glued to your own phones, not saying anything. Exactly. For 2017, try to limit the amount of time you're on your tech when you're together. The only exception to the rule is when you're doing something together. Image source: iStock
Learn To Appreciate Every MomentThis might sound like something from a corny card, but it's a valid point. If you're focusing on all of the grand #RelationshipGoals images with 10,000 roses and a room full of balloons as being your ideal romantic gestures, you're going to be ignoring all of the small-but-amazing things you and bae already have. TBH, just spending time with bae or cuddling in his/her arms should be epic enough. Image source: iStock
Make It About The Two Of YouHow many people are in your relationship? Ten? A thousand of your closest friends? Or only you and bae? If it's only the two of you, then make sure that you're focusing on the two of you when it comes to big decisions or problems. You're the only two in the relationship so you're really the only ones who know what it's about. Image source: iStock
Be More OpenIt's weird. You can have such a deep connection with your S.O. yet sometimes you feel like you cannot really share everything with him/her, right? I get it. As tough as you might think it is, it will actually benefit your relationship overall if you and bae are open and honest with each other. Trust. Image source: iStock
Try To Respect Each Other's DifferencesYou are your own person and so is bae. You're not clones of each other so you're going to have differences when it comes to opinions, habits, and personal preferences. So, try not to sweat the small stuff. I know it can be annoying if bae is always leaving those empty bottles of soda around and that you find it gross that he/she puts mustard on his/her fries, but out of all of the differences you could have, those aren't biggies to stress about. Image source: iStock
What are your relationship goals for 2017? Let us know in the comments!
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