10 Honest Reasons Watching Porn Is The Worst

Porn has to be one of the most controversial subjects out there. People generally either love it or absolutely can’t stand it, and almost everyone has some sort of strong opinion about it. Here at Gurl, we’ve always been pretty pro-porn, while also acknowledging that there are some really bad things about the industry as a whole. We encourage our readers to watch and embrace pornography as a way to explore their sexuality and learn new things. We don’t like to shame anyone for what they choose to watch on their own time, and we try to have an open mind about how porn works with relationships. A lot of our readers appreciate this, but we also know that a lot of you think watching porn is the worst. Many of you are totally, completely against it, and maybe you feel like your voices haven’t been heard here.

Well, they have! So much so that when I saw this Ask Reddit thread asking people why they’re against porn, I knew I had to share it with all of you. I know what it’s like to feel like you’re the only person out there who can’t stand porn. When I was in high school, I hated it. The idea of my boyfriend watching porn made me feel insecure, stressed out, and miserable. This is because I was insecure and stressed out. I didn’t fully understand porn or why he was watching it, and I tried to ban him from doing so. I was so against porn that it’s actually surprising how pro-porn I am now. I mean, it’s not like I’m the world’s biggest supporter of watching two people have sex all day, but I can know acknowledge that, when done right, porn can be a healthy way to explore your sexuality. I don’t hate it anymore, and while I know there are things that need to change about it, I no longer feel like it’s akin to cheating.

But anyway. Enough about me! Here are some honest reasons people believe that watching porn is the worst. Maybe you agree, maybe you don’t – either way, tell us why in the comments!


It Makes People Feel Bad About Their Bodies

It's really hard to be a young woman watching porn or looking at female porn stars. You see naked women who look amazing and know how to do everything right, and it can easily make you feel like crap. The same can said for men who feel inadequate about their genitals after watching porn. And that feeling sucks! User HANGNAIL_INMY_VAGINA says, "It's unrealistic: think of the body image issues it engenders in people. Men worried their penises aren't big enough, women convinced their labia should look like a paper cut.

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It Has Become Way Too Over The Top

Porn has always had more over-the-top subsets, but in the past, it was pretty basic: people having sex with each other on camera. In fact, porn was once just photos of people in a magazine. Nowadays, it's so available that it needs to stand out in order to be viewed, and as a result, things have gotten a little too crazy.

Reddit user T-Flexercise points this out, saying, "I feel about pornography the way I feel about breakfast cereal. In theory, when it's produced in fair trade ethical situations, there's nothing morally wrong about it, but still bad for you if not consumed in moderation. But in practice, because of bad business practices and the natural tendency for humans to want things that are immediately pleasurable but long term bad for them, it's gradually become sugarier and more terrible for you over the years, and its consumption has skyrocketed far beyond what anyone would consider reasonable or moderate. What used to be some wheaty unsweetened thing as part of a balanced breakfast, or a video of a couple having some sex they like, is now, like, just a giant bowl of marshmallows for breakfast, and let's see how many things this woman can fit in her butt while a dude slaps her in the face, on the internet for free." It is definitely a little scary to think about how much things have changed.

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Women Are Treated Very Badly

We've all heard that the porn industry as a whole treats women terribly. Some say that there are reputable companies out there producing ethical porn, while others argue that things can't be that bad, and that if women don't want to be treated that way, they shouldn't become porn stars. It takes a more personal story for some to believe the truth - a lot of the industry treats women really, really badly.

User EmpressShred says, "My bff used to do porn. The industry is horrible. HORRIBLE. They will lie, cheat, steal just to get something they can upload. Recently she was promised X number of dollars for a shoot, which she didn't receive, and she was was told she'd have such and such assurances so she could back out if uncomfortable. Well she was uncomfortable and they wouldn't let her leave until she did the shoot. She was basically raped on camera and was never paid." Hearing horrifying stories like these can turn anyone off.

It Makes People Feel Insecure

A big reason that a lot of women dislike porn is because the idea of their bae watching it makes them feel insecure AF. It's something a lot of people don't want to admit, which is why I give Reddit user Azure_phantom props for being honest: "Definitely against it. Apart from the industry being shady af, I'm also insecure and don't want to be in a relationship with someone who watches it. Yes it limited the dating pool, but I'd rather be single than in a relationship where my SO's habits make me miserable. I'm not into relationships where my SO's want to get off easily trumps my emotional or mental wellbeing."

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It's Just Not Realistic For Virgins

Anyone who has had a decent amount of sex knows that porn sex is not realistic. But someone who doesn't have a lot of experience can easily watch a lot of porn and get the wrong ideas about sex and women in general. A lot of people are concerned about this, which user turbo2016 points out, saying, "It's important to tell people that it isn't what sex really is like. For virgins it's good for them to have realistic expectations, and for non-virgins it's a good reminder to hear that sex doesn't have to be 40 minutes of pound town. But there is definitely a place for porn!"

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It Normalizes Abusive Statements and Action

There are a lot of aspects of porn that even those of us who don't mind it can't get behind. One of those things for me and another Reddit user is the way porn normalizes degrading women. The user worried19 says, "I wouldn't say I'm against it totally, or in theory. But I'm against what passes for normal mainstream porn. You don't have to search for rough sex or BDSM to find videos with horrible titles labeling women slurs like "sluts" or "whores," or with women being slapped, choked, or having their hair pulled. I read some study that said 88% of modern porn has verbal or physical aggression against women, and it's always male on female, almost never the other way around. It makes me angry that this is what children and young teenagers are getting exposed to and that they are being conditioned to assume this is the normal dynamic for sex, women being weak and degraded."

You Never Know If Consent Is Involved

A lot of people like to ignore the fact that a lot of the porn industry involves rape, sexual assault, sex trafficking, or women who feel uncomfortable with what they're doing on camera. Reddit user heyeurydice makes a good point when saying, "I cannot justify using porn because it is not possible to be sure whether or not the person on camera is fully consenting. I don't know whether the performers are there against their will. I don't know whether they've been drugged. I don't know whether they would have done what they're about to do if someone hadn't paid them. The idea that I could be getting off to someone being raped or assaulted disgusts me."

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The Industry Sucks

I think the main argument against porn is that the industry as a whole is terrible, which is absolutely fair. Reddit user YourWaterloo says, "I'm not against it as a concept, but it's generally not an industry that I trust to not to take advantage of vulnerable people and treat its actors and actresses with respect." I think a lot of us can agree with it. I'm not against porn, but that doesn't mean I don't have an issue with many aspects of the industry that produces it.

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People Really Think It's Real

It's kind of scary to think that many people believe that porn is totally real. Like user Whatadayithasbeen says, "My major issue is that for some reason folks think that movies are not real, but porn is. The unreal expectations of incredibly impossible acts as the norm, totally skipping building intimacy are causing real harm. The industry is harmful. I can't say I am for porn anymore.

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It Gives People Warped Expectations of Women

Common porn storylines involve women squirting whenever they orgasm, every woman loving when a guy ejaculates on her face, and unrealistic views of lesbians. User -Oizys gives this as a reason for being against it: "I do think that especially young men who aren't successful in the dating department (and thus lack real experience) get their expectations on sex and women really warped. In those situations I think it's damaging. Otherwise, I'm not really opposed to it. Not a fan either though."

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What are your opinions on porn? What do you agree or disagree with here? Let us know in the comments.

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