What on Earth do you get someone you’ve already given dozens of gifts to? Just more of the same stuff in different colors? Long term relationship gift exhaustion is real. A ton of my friends have no idea what to give their long term bae for Christmas this year, even though they’re technically someone who knows them very, very well. I feel for you all, I honestly do, but to look on the bright side, at least you aren’t restricted by the newly-together or just-started-dating couples who are worried about spending too much or accidentally doing the most. Your person already knows you love them!
Instead, you get to focus on what they need, spend a lot of time and thought on this gift, and yeah, maybe spend more money. Who cares? You can gift bae something that isn’t just for fun, you can give them investment pieces: gifts that’ll stand the test of time and might have more of a heavy price tag. Oops. No one ever said love didn’t cost anything
except J. Lo definitely said it. Honestly, it might not even feel like a big deal to give that much during the holiday season since you know your person’s got your back. The holidays are the season to be giving and of course, if you could, you’d give them an infinite amount of puppies and crisp 100 dollar bills, but alas, we aren’t Kanye West. These are 10 gifts you should give your long term bae this holiday season.
A Nice WatchWatches are always a classy touch. There's something evolved about feeling like you don't have to look at your phone to check the time. We all know about the big watch brands that are known as THE watches to give if you're giving a gift to someone you love - which is fair - however, do you know about all the unique watches on Etsy? This one's made from wood, everybody. WOOD. If you throw down a Rolex in a pile of other Nice Watches, can you tell yours apart? Okay, what about the natural custom wood one with an inscription on the back? Cool, that's what I thought. They're going to love this.Buy this from Etsy for $54.95
Bluetooth SpeakersI am a changed woman - good speakers make music sound better and change your TV watching experiences. Bluetooth speakers are good for everything. Don't let your boyfriend/girlfriend suffer through getting their entertainment via awful laptop speakers anymore. If your person is into a more modern looking gadget, there's plenty of those going around, but I found these vintage looking beauties and I had to let you guys know about them because they're sleek and classy af. In my opinion, you either need some bluetooth speakers or you already have some. Buy this from Urban Outfitters for $79
Something They've Been Meaning To DoDo they want to teach themselves guitar but keep putting it off? Get them a guitar. They want to learn to skateboard? Get that for them. Part of being in a long term relationship is getting to know a person's goals and ambitions. Even if they're smaller compared to big life aspirations, let them know you're there for them and get them that boost they need to get going on that Thing They Want To Do. Knowing you support them is a gift, so materialize it for Christmas. A friend of mine got a series of dance lessons because her boyfriend knew she missed dancing. How sweet! You see what I mean now?Source: iStock
Anything That Gives Back To A Cause They're Passionate AboutIf you have a #WokeBae, the key to their heart is through conscious civic action and putting your money where your mouth is. Or where their heart is. Which is to say, if you're set on donating or providing aid to something your person is passionate about, but don't want them to open a box of nothing but your donation receipt, there's plenty of options in apparel and other goods that give directly to the people and movements that need support. To be honest, it doesn't need to be something as large as Standing Rock or Syria. If bae is really passionate about dog rescues and animal rights, there's definitely stuff for that, too. Everyone's different and has their own things to be passionate about.Buy this from Omaze.com for $25.
Tickets To Something They LoveYou can never go wrong with concert tickets! Unless they're Beyonce, getting tickets aren't usually huge preplanned events and they pair well with a smaller item like a band shirt or something. It doesn't even need to be a concert. Bae might like tickets to a sporting event, theatre, a lecture, a comedy show, you name it. This item is as diverse and specific as your person is. Since you're in it for the long term, you can feel okay purchasing tickets for an event that isn't happening immediately since you'll presumably be together in a few months and it'll give you two something to look forward to.Source: iStock
Some Sweet KicksWho doesn't love a good sneaker? I honestly was trying to find something fancy, then saw these bad boys with hamburgers on them and knew they screamed Perfect Christmas Gift. How awesome are these things? Everyone wears sneakers, I don't care what your style is - or bae's. Since you know their taste (and in this case, sense of humor), you totally have room to go ahead and buy them some style items you think would suit them well. Given that everybody wears sneakers, they'll think about you when they wear them and have to bring up that you bought them for them when people ask, which comes with the coveted double brag of "Yeah, don't I look cool?" and "Yeah, doesn't she know me well?"Buy this from Pac Sun for $34.99
A Record PlayerVinyl is making a comeback! If your person is a music nerd, they might have some feelings about vinyl. A record player can feel like a huge splurge since you have to buy records to go with it and start a collection, blah blah blah. Here's the thing: the record player is the splurge and getting someone started with records you can buy from a thrift store should cost you $5. It doesn't even need to be good music to be fun and perfect - ironic record sets with funny covers can get the job done. They might not think to buy this for themselves, which is why people have thoughtful boyfriends and girlfriends to think of this stuff *for* them. There's plenty of options available and some come with aux cord hook ups so you can play your music when you aren't using the turntable. It's nearly perfect.Buy this from Target for $79.99
A Fancy BackpackOkay, at the risk of feeling like this person's mom, let me just say that backpacks are legit. Even if you're out of school, if you're constantly on the go, backpacks save your life. So, naturally, there's some fancy backpacks out there with waterproof laptop sleeves. This one doesn't even have a zipper (honestly, click through for an explanation because I still don't get it). So long as you know they'll get use out of it and it isn't something their parents may have swiped as part of back to school shopping, a new, awesome backpack would make just about anyone feel like a million bucks.Buy this from Amazon for $41.99
A Childhood UpgradeGetting someone a more mature version of something they loved as a kid shows thought and that you really appreciate the origin story of how they go to be who they are. For example, this Batman poster is rad, but things like cufflinks, dress socks, and vintage shirts can also do the job so long as you aren't literally buying them a kiddie toy. What was their favorite movie as a child? Were they that child who showed up to school dressed as Spiderman no matter what? Everybody loves a good throw back and there's so much good nostalgic goods out there waiting to be gifted.Buy this from Etsy for $10
Something From Their Family's RootsGenealogy is expensive and while awesome, I don't necessarily have a spare $100 to kick for a DNA map. However, getting something with their family's crest, for example, is surprisingly easy and affordable if they're Scottish/Irish/Welsh. I saw some hats made from traded Syrian fabric this weekend and melted (because of current events and my personal heritage). Since you know this person so well and their family, if family and their heritage or culture is important to them, consider getting something family-specific or something that's directly from there in one way or another. It shows thought and it doesn't always have to be a big ticket item.Buy this from Etsy for $29.99
What are you getting your long term bae? Do you also have the hardest time finding the perfect gift? Let us know in the comments!
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