We all have that one friend in our group who everyone considers the “fun friend.” You know who I’m talking about – the friend who seems to get along with everyone, the one who is down to do pretty much anything, the girl who makes everything more exciting. She’s the friend who gets invited to every hangout, and everyone misses her when she’s not around. They always look like they’re having the best time on their Snapchat story and everyone wants to be their bestie. Well, that friend is not me. I’m more of the ~go with the flow~ friend, which is pretty cool and all, but tbh, sometimes I wish I was considered the fun friend.
Deep down, I know that we’re all different people with different personalities, and some people are just naturally more outgoing and adventurous. But at the same time, I know that people aren’t always born as the fun friend – it can take time to get that way. If you, like me, are not considered the fun friend, don’t stress. There are a few things you can do that will help you act like more of a people person. Honestly, though, don’t overthink it. If everyone were the fun friend, things would get exhausting, fast. Part of the beauty of a friend group is having different personalities mix together and balance each other out. And even though our society makes things easier for extroverts, being more quiet is totally fine! Now that I’ve said my piece, here are a few simple tips on how to be the fun friend of your group in case you really want to know:
Act ConfidentConfidence really does affect how people see you! Being confident makes people take you more seriously, and it also makes you more enjoyable to be around. It's just a vibe! Even if you aren't confident, faking confidence can still work. You just have to really sell it, and eventually, you'll actually be that sure of yourself! Image Source: Sex And The City
Be There When They Need YouOne of the best things about the fun friend is that you know she's the one you can call when you're feeling down and need a boost. So, be that person for your friends. When they're sad or feeling angry about something, don't just sit and wallow with them - force them to do something fun. It will be better for both of you! I mean, don't force them, but try to get them out. Once they associate you with that kind of behavior, you're in. Image Source: Gilmore Girls
Be Open MindedIt's important to be open to new, cool things. If you want to branch out and be more ~exciting~, you need to be willing to step out of your comfort zone. I'm not telling you to be peer pressured into things, but be open to trying something new, like going to a new place to hang out or doing something they love that you've never tried. You never know, you might have fun doing something you normally wouldn't do! And opening yourself up to these sorts of experiences definitely makes for some good stories. Image Source: The OC
Plan ThingsYou can't just expect fun things to always happen. If you want to be the fun friend, go out and plan something awesome for you and your squad. Instead of just inviting everyone over to your house, plan a movie night with tons of snacks or throw a small party. Or, plan a mini vacation with your girlfriends, or just a fun night out. Do something different! Image Source: Gossip Girl
RelaxNo offense, but you can't really be the fun friend while also being super uptight about stuff. If you're the one who normally worries, try to take it easy. Feeling anxious about everything is a big struggle, and I know getting rid of that feeling is easier said than done. But, again, try to be open to new things, and try not to totally freak out when things don't go exactly according to plan. Image Source: Clueless
Be HonestYou can't expect people to want to hang around you if you are lying all the time. Honesty goes a long way! I had a friend in high school who was a compulsive liar, and it made hanging out with her kind of suck, since I never knew if she was being genuine or not. Plus, people appreciate it when you're willing to say something no one else will say. Image Source: Pretty Little Liars
Don't Talk Behind Their BacksYou can't be fun if you're talking badly about all your friends! Even if you LOVE drama, refrain from talking behind your friend's backs. That's not fun, TBH, it's pretty shady and petty. You can be fun and petty, but make sure you're not seriously hurting anyone's feelings. Image Source: Gossip Girl
Are you the fun friend? Are you going to try any of these tips? Tell us in the comments!