Anal sex is not a topic that you just casually bring up when you and your friends are hanging out after school. Well, maybe you do bring it up in every day conversation, and that’s fine, but a lot of people don’t. There’s a definite stigma surrounding anal sex, despite the fact that it’s something a lot of people are interested in. Some people assume it’s something that only happens in porn, others can’t get past the general idea of it, and for most people, it just feels more personal and private than traditional penetrative sex. So, it becomes a taboo topic that you might feel weird asking questions about. Well, we LOVE talking about anal sex at Gurl, so don’t worry, we’ve got your covered.
Recently, mad-checsireKat, a user on our boards, was hoping to get the low down on this topic. She wrote, “My boyfriend really likes anal sex and we’ve tried it once. Honestly, it wasn’t bad at all the first time! But I want both of us to enjoy it more. Any tips or advice?” Well, one tip is to definitely only do it if you both want to. Just because your BF likes it doesn’t mean you have to do it! But, if you did enjoy having anal sex and want to find out how to have a little more fun, there are some super important tips and tricks to consider in order to have a fun (and comfortable) time. Check out some advice from some of our users on how to have anal sex!
Use Lubesweethoney said, "Two words: Use Lubricant." If you don't want to be in pain (and let's be real, you probably don't) you're going to have to use a lot of lube in order to make it more comfortable. Don't have lube? Take a look at these easy alternatives. Image Source: iStock
Try Some Foreplaycarrie95 said, " Engage in foreplay. Start slowly. I'm super tight at the entrance, so I have to stop once the head gets in so I can adjust/relax. Once I'm relaxed and he gets up inside, it's good (can be soooooo good), but it takes time/patience/effort to get to that point." Any time you're having sex, foreplay is the most important thing to remember. You need to really be ~in the mood~ in order to have enjoyable sex, and foreplay will help relax your muscles and your mind! Image Source: iStock
Work Your Way Into ItrachelH said, "Get him to be very gentle and work up to it. Before the day you do it, play with yourself a little to work out what you like. Use a lot of a lube and slide a finger or a thumb up there - maybe consider buying a sex toy to help ease you up a little." Don't just dive right in, you have to work your way up to it! Be sure to prepare yourself before hand so that it will be less painful. Try using a sex toy or even your fingers. Image Source: iStock
Trust Your Partnerbinudistgurl said, "There aren't too many guys who know how to handle a girl's back door. It needs practice, lots of lube and lots of trust... otherwise it's gonna be really painful." You want to be sure you're doing it with someone you really trust, because it can take a lot of time and patience! Image Source: iStock
Try A Butt Plugcarrie95 said, "OK, no joke, consider a set of butt plugs. Yes, I mean it. I bought a three-pack and, well ... they're pretty wonderful." Getting something like a sex toy can help you "loosen" yourself up, which will make it easier to have anal sex. Image Source: iStock
Be Patientkrystenanna99 said, "Have a lot of practice and going slowly and not getting frustrated, it's become part of our regular sex life and it is amazzzzzing. completely different feeling/orgasm. if you are willing to take the time to get it right it is totally worth it." Don't get frustrated if you can't do it at first. It takes time to get comfortable! Image Source: iStock
Work Out Your Musclesopenmind said, "To get yourself at least used to the feeling of anal, practice yourself first a few times. Use a dildo, or your finger. Flex your ass muscles and you can feel how they can move in and out which is a deeper sensation and movement. You want to do that with the dildo against you, lubed. Do it patiently and feel how your ass pushes against it and massages it. You'll find over time (from 2-10 minutes) that your ass will open and take more and more of it." This is pretty descriptive, but a super helpful way to help get your body used to the sensation of anal sex. Try it out! Image Source: iStock
Have you ever tried any of these tips? Tell us in the comments!