Most people would agree, I think, that there are very few things that are more aggravating than receiving unsolicited advice. There are exceptions, of course–if you are about to walk head-in into a busy urban intersection because you are busy reading a Russian novel or trying to make that one last Vine, unsolicited advice would probably be fine if it came in the form of “Hey, it would probably behoove you to not walk into this busy urban intersection right now, unless both Russian lit and Vine Culture have had a very profound impact on you, in which case, I cannot tell you what to do.”
But most times? Unsolicited advice is not great. Especially when you’re single, which for whatever reasons, tends to increase the amount of advice one gets exponentially, most of which centers around what you are doing wrong (being single) and what you can do to alter your path (to become not single, I guess). So, check out these bad pieces of advice that all single people get:
1. “Stop being so picky! You’d find someone if you got more realistic with your expectations.”
2. “You just need to get *out* there more.”
What is out there, even?
3. “Just get on an online dating service!”
Every time someone says this to you, an angel loses its wings.
4. “People at your school aren’t as bad as you say. You just need to give them a chance.”
Concept: people at school actually being *that* bad.
5. “Being single means that you need to live it up. Go ahead! Hook up with everyone! You have to do it for me.”
People in relationships tend to use your being single as a means of living vicariously through you and, as a result, telling you to hook up with everyone you come across. If you want to do this, it’s fine! Just don’t do it, like, for anyone else that isn’t you.
6. “Finding the right person will happen when you least expect it.”
7. “There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Don’t worry!”
I wasn’t worried! But, uh, thanks all the same.
8. “Are you coming on too strong? Make sure you don’t respond to anyone’s text right away.”
Don’t feel like you have to play games.
9. “You can have what we have too. All you need to do is…”
This is a very specific piece of advice that comes from a friend who is in a relationship that is so great that they refer to themselves as a “we.” They then go into some long, hyper-detailed explanation of how they found the one that generally has nothing whatsoever to do with you, but they feel is vital informatin, apparently.
10. “It’s important not to get too lonely. If you pick up a hobby, it’s so useful to help occupy your time and help you find someone.”
I’m good, thanks.
11. “You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you.”
Nope. Not true, actually.
Do you ever get this advice? Did I forget anything? Let us know in the comments!
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